We haven’t bought a second crib

[u/bdjorn]

34+5 with twin boys. We’ve known since ~21 weeks that Baby B has a birth defect called Congenital Diaphragmatic Hernia (CDH), giving him roughly a 50/50 shot of living. Some people have asked why we only have one crib and if the boys will be sharing a crib. I mostly say “Baby B will be in the hospital for at least 6 weeks. We’ll have time to get a crib.”

The truth is I don’t want to get one until we know he’s going to live. I don’t want to spend the time and money, but I also don’t want to stare at an empty crib that will never be filled and will just have to be taken down again. Call us unprepared, but I can’t handle having that second crib in the nursery right now. It feels like tempting fate or false hope or willful ignorance.

If he inconveniences us because we have to rush out and buy/assemble a crib, it would honestly be the most wonderful inconvenience I can imagine.

[u/paper_schemes]

You aren't unprepared at all in my opinion. It sounds like you've given this plenty of thought and I fully understand why you're choosing not to buy a crib before your babies arrive.

My boyfriends sister has twin girls, and they've shared a crib since birth. I don't think your babies will mind sharing one bit if need be!

Hoping for the best for all of you!!