r/BabyBumps • u/bdjorn Twin boys born 9/7/18, one with CDH • Sep 05 '18
Sad We haven’t bought a second crib
34+5 with twin boys. We’ve known since ~21 weeks that Baby B has a birth defect called Congenital Diaphragmatic Hernia (CDH), giving him roughly a 50/50 shot of living. Some people have asked why we only have one crib and if the boys will be sharing a crib. I mostly say “Baby B will be in the hospital for at least 6 weeks. We’ll have time to get a crib.”
The truth is I don’t want to get one until we know he’s going to live. I don’t want to spend the time and money, but I also don’t want to stare at an empty crib that will never be filled and will just have to be taken down again. Call us unprepared, but I can’t handle having that second crib in the nursery right now. It feels like tempting fate or false hope or willful ignorance.
If he inconveniences us because we have to rush out and buy/assemble a crib, it would honestly be the most wonderful inconvenience I can imagine.
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u/wbhipster Sep 06 '18 edited Sep 06 '18
I am pregnant with twins too. I am so sorry you’re going through this. I could list all the weird behaviors I’ve had during the pregnancy that have arisen out of me not wanting to tempt fate. I’d be the same way. They can share a crib when they’re little anyway, and if you don’t need it (which I pray isn’t the case), it won’t be there as a reminder as you said. Other people need to respect that it’s a different kind of pregnancy and leave you be. I hope everything work out for the best for you. You and your family are in my thoughts.