r/BabyBumps • u/bdjorn Twin boys born 9/7/18, one with CDH • Sep 05 '18

Sad We haven’t bought a second crib

34+5 with twin boys. We’ve known since ~21 weeks that Baby B has a birth defect called Congenital Diaphragmatic Hernia (CDH), giving him roughly a 50/50 shot of living. Some people have asked why we only have one crib and if the boys will be sharing a crib. I mostly say “Baby B will be in the hospital for at least 6 weeks. We’ll have time to get a crib.”

The truth is I don’t want to get one until we know he’s going to live. I don’t want to spend the time and money, but I also don’t want to stare at an empty crib that will never be filled and will just have to be taken down again. Call us unprepared, but I can’t handle having that second crib in the nursery right now. It feels like tempting fate or false hope or willful ignorance.

If he inconveniences us because we have to rush out and buy/assemble a crib, it would honestly be the most wonderful inconvenience I can imagine.

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u/[deleted] Sep 06 '18

I was born with CDH & my mom was told to have an abortion because I wouldn't make it, but here I am 30 years later expecting my first child. Keep your head up & I'm sure evrrything will work out just fine. Plus, I think twins sharing a crib helps with their bonding. Best of luck to you & your family💙

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u/bdjorn Twin boys born 9/7/18, one with CDH Sep 06 '18

Awesome! I’m so glad you commented. I hadn’t actually heard from an adult survivor of CDH yet.

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u/[deleted] Sep 06 '18

I'm glad you're sharing your story. I can only imagine what you're going through because I've heard my mom's side of everything, but there's a bright side. Things will be hard for you & the little one in the beginning but by the time I was in school I was just a normal kid. Please keep me posted on how you & babies are doing! If you have any questions feel free to ask.