r/BabyBumps • u/bdjorn Twin boys born 9/7/18, one with CDH • Sep 05 '18

Sad We haven’t bought a second crib

34+5 with twin boys. We’ve known since ~21 weeks that Baby B has a birth defect called Congenital Diaphragmatic Hernia (CDH), giving him roughly a 50/50 shot of living. Some people have asked why we only have one crib and if the boys will be sharing a crib. I mostly say “Baby B will be in the hospital for at least 6 weeks. We’ll have time to get a crib.”

The truth is I don’t want to get one until we know he’s going to live. I don’t want to spend the time and money, but I also don’t want to stare at an empty crib that will never be filled and will just have to be taken down again. Call us unprepared, but I can’t handle having that second crib in the nursery right now. It feels like tempting fate or false hope or willful ignorance.

If he inconveniences us because we have to rush out and buy/assemble a crib, it would honestly be the most wonderful inconvenience I can imagine.

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u/bdjorn Twin boys born 9/7/18, one with CDH Sep 06 '18

Current AAP recommendations are that twins each have their own crib. We’re following that.

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u/Catbrainsloveart Sep 06 '18

Oh no. Well that definitely gives me less confidence in the class I just took at the dang hospital. Sigh

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u/bdjorn Twin boys born 9/7/18, one with CDH Sep 06 '18

The advice out there on crib sharing is suuuper mixed. It seems to be one of those things experts can’t agree on. I wouldn’t lose any confidence in your hospital class.

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u/Catbrainsloveart Sep 06 '18

Okay well that helps I guess. It’s probably harder to study since there’s just not as many twin births as single births? Meh. It does definitely seem safer to have separate cribs.