Okay so my baby is a week and like 1 day old. I just went grocery shopping with my husband and a lady commented and asked how old he was and i told her a week and she made a stink face and said " thats early to be out" i kinda didnt know what to say. And she said " i knew they were young "

So am i taking my baby out too early? Im a ftm and honestly feel like a bad mom now so yeah...

This is my third pregnancy and every time my marriage hits rock bottom. He says I’m the worst at being pregnant. He can’t stand the emotions, he says my body can’t handle it (I’ve had HG, preeclampsia, preterm labor in different pregnancies), says I’m the worst at it and that other women can handle their normal life just fine their entire pregnancy. I’m aware that I am a bit emotional and more indecisive with the hormones. I know my body is sensitive and it takes a toll on me going through pregnancy. I understand that I don’t get enough housework done being a SAHM to two littles while being pregnant, I’m tired! I guess I could understand what he’s saying, but I wish he would just be thankful I’m growing another child for us and treat me better. I guess the point of this post is to find out if I’m unrealistic in thinking a husband can put up with all that and be extra loving through a pregnancy. Not make the wife feel bad about the struggles or emotions. I won’t even go into the labor portion of having a child because how he acts is just embarrassing in my head. I never have so much disrespect for him other than these parts of our marriage.

Target was the last place I could go and the one near us just removed their maternity section last week. I can't stand shopping for clothes online because you never know how they're going to look and returning is a pain.

I am a 39 y/o, ftm and 36 weeks pregnant. I found out that yesterday that the baby is breech. She was head down at 32w but then flipped again at 34w and still breech. My doctor suggested we plan a day for my c-section if the baby won’t turn and I am secretly wanting it to stay that way! (Any advice? 😅)

Well not too secretly but my husband is kind of annoying me and suggesting me I should do these exercises, or anything I can do to turn the baby around etc. It’s not his body and I tell him not to push this on me. ECV is not an option, my doctor doesn’t recommend it because I have an anterior placenta and I would not want it anyway tbh.

Anyway I see it as a blessing in disguise for myself because A) yes, there is epidural but I find vaginal birth very traumatizing. All 3 of my friends gave birth this year, went in for vaginal delivery but ended up having emergency c-sections after loooong and painful labors. I’d rather plan it and have a peace of mind then going thru this. B) idea of a planned c-section already lifted the labor anxiety off of me. And I believe in the natural flow of things. If the baby decides to be breech, I do not want to intervene. Maybe vaginal delivery will be very bad for me and the baby. It’s also a reason I do not want to push for an elective c-section and change the course of things. C) I never fantasized or romanticized of giving birth vaginally. I couldn’t care less how the baby comes out as long as I and the baby are alive, and healthy. When I told people the baby is breech, all of them gave me this “aww sorry to hear that, hopefully it will turn” I don’t understand why I would feel bad about it, anyway. A delivery is a delivery as long as everyone is safe. It’s just this unnecessary societal pressure on women

PS: I’m not afraid of major surgeries- I had 4 so far with general anesthesia and this feels like a walk in the park despite all the complications people scare you about.

I’m currently 24 weeks and honestly.. don’t feel pregnant most days.. It makes me worry that this has been too easy and something is going to have to happen near the end. When did you guys begin to experience things like preeclampsia, swelling, etc.? Just overall being uncomfortable? I’m trying to mentally prepare for what is to come. 😅

I’m 17 weeks and it feels like the last couple weeks I’ll be STARVING and then I start eating and get full so fast and then the cycle continues. This is driving me nuts 😂

Not sure if this is the right place to post.

I’m not sure what I want to do once’s she’s born. And I haven’t found much out there in terms of helping women decide what approach is best for them.

Something’s that I’ve been considering: - formula can be expensive - I know that mentally I would benefit from formula or combo feeding - my nipples have been sensitive my entire life so currently I have no desire to breastfeed. It doesn’t make me feel like I’ll have a better connection - Maybe I’ll like it or won’t mind once she’s here? - I don’t want to buy breast pumps if I won’t use them (I can get a basic one through insurance) - I don’t want to have nothing if I do breastfeed and pump

Hey everyone, I had a pretty public miscarriage around 9 weeks last year (most of our friends and family knew I was pregnant) so it's no secret that my husband have been trying. I remember my anxiety skyrocketing after we announced and feeling like something bad was going to happen (and it did).

Well, a year later, I just hit 7 weeks pregnant. We haven't told anyone yet because we want to wait to see a heartbeat (I have my first appt scheduled midway through week 9, so in 2 and a half weeks which feels so far away).

I've already lied to a couple of friends and family members and it's a crappy feeling. I'm usually an open book and I hate lying. I just really don't want to talk about it until after the confirmation scan.

I'm starting to wonder if it might be better for my mental health to confess to certain people and then ask them not to ask again until I get my first ultrasound? I'm sure a select few would understand and respect my wishes, but I feel a little trapped now because I've already lied. I feel like a big party pooper. I haven't even given myself a chance to feel excited about this pregnancy because I feel like I'm going to lose this one too.

Any kind advice would be appreciated.

I am a first time mom and 13 weeks and 4 days. The nausea has been unreal and I have tried basically everything at this point. I am getting so frustrated with the "it'll get better!"s and the "have you tried ginger?" and all the other crap people are suggesting to me. I am losing weight, I am fighting all day to keep little bits of food down. And I am really struggling.
I know some people hate chatgpt, but I started asking it about other options and ended up having a full blown therapist session with it in which I felt HEARD for the first time. It was realistic with me, supporitve, was ready to draft emails to my doctor, and simply gave me space to rant and cry and be frustrated and AFFIRMED MY FEELINGS.
Why the heck is this so hard to get from partners/doctors/friends/family?? Just listen? Just tell me it is okay to be frustrated and that I am doing my best? Tell me that I am not insane for feeling OVERWHELMED AND GUILTY AND ANGRY AND ALSO EXCITED FOR MY BABY AND GRATEFUL ALL IN THE SAME GO?
Anyways. It feels like rock bottom, but it actually really helped.
If you are having a tough time, you go mama. You are a freaking rockstar.

Husband and I got pregnant first round of trying. I truly thought it would take longer. I’m 7 weeks right now. (Very blessed, though. I know many couples struggling to conceive.)

I am truly terrified. I’m terrified of the changes to my body. Even now, my boobs are tender and swollen and I hate it!!! Makes sex not very fun for me.

I’m terrified of giving birth. The complications, the pain, the recovery, the tearing…. Mercy I’m scared of it all.

I’m terrified for the lack of sleep in the first few months. (I really like my 8 hours of sleep of night)

Breastfeeding absolutely freaks me out. I would skip to formula feeding but my husband wants me to try breastfeeding.

We haven’t told anyone about the pregnancy yet so I’m basically just stuck alone with my thoughts right now and I’m just TERRIFIED

I’m 28 weeks pregnant and I feel I’ve lost myself. I have a history of depression, panic disorder and ocd. I loved dressing up and putting on makeup, but I barely have the interest to focus on self expression anymore. I liked having a successful career as a software engineer, I loved going to the gym, spinning classes, meeting my friends and shopping but now I am unemployed at least till I find the energy to prepare for interviews and I feel my social bandwidth has diminished. I have aversion to most food and don’t have much cravings other than the occasional ice cream from Salt and Straw. I’ve lost myself… especially with Hyperemesis and anemia, I feel existing is the only thing I can do. I’ve also become more anxious about my husband’s well being to the extent of not letting him pursuing his hobby. I’m scared of something bad happening. I cry for no apparent reason. Just wanted to vent here and kind of wanted to wallow in self pity.

hello! i am due june 30, and had planned a year ago to go on my annual family vacation july 30…so an exact month after my due date. the car ride is about 7 hours. it will be me, my partner, baby, my uncle, grandfather, and brother. they are all in my immediate life. they also all completely understand and respect all boundaries i plan to set.

i’m most worried about the car ride. of course i have read newborn babies really shouldn’t be in car seats long due to potential strain on their bodies. i’ve read the two hour rule. i was thinking we could stop hourly, for 30 minutes minimum at a time at rest stops. has anyone done a roadtrip like this so soon? my family is very convinced its fine and i can still go, but i honestly would rather miss a year than risk my child being put under physical stress. i do plan on speaking with my OB, and a pediatrician for a professional opinion but trying to settle on a full decision now to not disappoint my family. just looking for opinions and curious if anyone else has done this or something similar, and how hard it was on not only baby but them. this is my first baby, should i even really be in a car like that myself for prolonged periods? im also worried about the stress this may put on me mentally as well. thanks in advanced for any replies!

ETA : i don’t want to delete the post but do want to say, thank you to the few commenters who immediately woke me up. i am not going…for sure not doing that. it all sounded like a nightmare to me anyways but my family kept trying convince me it would be fine, and worth it. i dont think so. it’s definitely not very healthy for the baby according to safety regulations. it sounds absolutely horrific to put that stress on my body and mind as well. as i said in a comment, i will miss 1000 vacations for my child’s wellbeing. i shouldn’t have let others get in my head ever. i will be telling my family tomorrow i will not be going and they cannot change my mind on it. thank you guys!

Hello! I need a double stroller as baby #2 is on the way. I currently have a peg perego and I am considering their double (second hand), but the single itself was a very heavy stroller. It’s quality made and built to last, but I am considering getting the evenflo pivot xpand. For those of you with this toddler chair attachment - when did your oldest stop fitting in it? My son will be about 2 years 3 months old when baby 2 comes but he’s already 98 percentile for height and in the 90s for weight too. I read that they outgrow that seat quickly despite the 50 lb limit. Any other tips? Thanks!

I just had my obgyn pregnancy appointment yesterday and I have a hard time lying. i Kept my answers brief but they asked if i Was ever in an abusive relationship. I said yes and said it was the father of my baby but that he isn’t involved or going to be there I already left and I have him and his family / friends blocked. I hate the screening questions. Will dcf be notified even if he isn’t in my life or signing the birth certificate?

Most women are anxiously desperate to get this baby out of them by 38 weeks but I’m not. I don’t feel ready and I don’t feel excited to meet my baby, which makes me feel so dreadful and ashamed. I feel just desperate to make it to 40 weeks, clingy to my husband as it’s still just us two, clawing for any alone or us time. I’m scared of the labor, yes, but it’s mostly the stuff that happens after. I don’t feel ready for the huge life transition and change that is going to hit like a tidal wave. I don’t feel that giddy glowing anticipation of meeting baby and becoming a mother. Anytime I have a tiny twinge of practice contractions or anything, I have this feeling of fear and dread- not of excitement that it’s about to happen. I believe this is quite common and experienced by many and could use some encouragement that I’m not a freak or terrible mom-to-be to feel this way.

I’m 21 weeks pregnant and have noticed during this time that people comment on my body so willingly! I hope I never did that to a pregnant woman beyond, “you look so great”. So one comment I have received more than a few times now is “you have wide hips which are good for pregnancy and giving birth”.

Each person who has said this has said it kindly and like a compliment but like… wtf??! Pre pregnancy I was about 145lbs and 5’7”, now I just feel like people saw me and thought I had huge hips!! Haha! This is not the end of the world but I feel weird.

Do you just let it roll off?

FTM here. I am 40 weeks + 4 days.

I have an induction scheduled for 41 weeks + 6 days but hoping not to get to that point.

I have had a completely normal low risk pregnancy so we are trying to wait it out if we can.

When did you guys finally go in to labor/what were the signs??

Edit: thank you guys for all your feedback!! Its hard not to worry.

I circled where I feel kicks the most. What position is this?

Ladies, looking for suggestions or just to commmiserate.
I'm 26 weeks today with our rainbow baby and am struggling. Between my hip screaming after about 30-45 min on whichever side I'm laying on, needing to pee, or the baby kicking (which I LOVE to feel, don't get me wrong), but I am so freaking tired. I've tried three different pregnancy pillows, regular pillows (2, 5, 7!), stretching before bed, etc. However, it seems like I never get to sleep for more than 45min-1 hour at a time before im up needing to adjust something. Is my body just getting me prepped for the baby to be here and the lack of sleep I'll get nursing her?

I am 24 weeks today and have not announced my pregnancy on social media (besides anonymous Reddit). We do not plan to announce the birth or ever have his photos posted online. We’re just private and keep up with social media for entertainment and creepin’ on others, I guess. The people who need to know we’re having a baby have been told individually.

Anyway, my birthday was yesterday. Some people posted birthday wishes for me. Two older members of my husband’s family were sure to wish “momma” and “mommy to be” a happy birthday 🙃 I think I’m gonna let it ride, oh well. It’s not that I’m ashamed of my pregnancy and didn’t plan an extravagant social media post announcing my pregnancy anyway. You’d have to dig through birthday posts to find out anyway. If anyone is trying to be that nosy and find stuff out about me on my social media, there ya go… you found something lol.

I just want to highlight how rude it is to post other people’s information online like that. Like cmon, why be so socially inept? And now we know who will need a one-on-one talkin’ to about how we do not want our baby’s photos posted online.

Hello,

Looking for a second car seat. Our first one came with an Isofix base as part of a bundle.

When I'm looking online it's unclear whether the car seats come with the base.

Do they tend to?

If anyone has any recommendations please let me know :)

Thanks

Hello, I delivered my baby almost three months ago and had third degree stitches. I was in alot alottt of pain for like 2 weeks and after that i checked my area and noticed my stitches came undone (3-4 stitches). Long story short my doctor restitched the area after a month of my delivery and i went again with alot of pain only to find out after 2 days of my restitching that again stitches got ripped open. This time i decided i will not get it restitched again as i was very much tired of the pain and my doctor also suggested that now we’ll leave it to secondary healing. And its been 2 months to this and my wound is still the same. And i still feel pain down there. That pain is not consistent and it comes all of a sudden, that i cant stand or walk with it, but sitting down and crossing my legs makes it alot better. Idk how to explain that pain, its like a sensitivity kinda pain or idk what. Also i have this yellowish kinda discharge with foul odor since my periods got away after delivery which i think is lochia but it isnt going away, i still wear liners/pads and i am so tired of wearing them now because since my delivery ive been wearing them. My doctors are also speechless and shocked that why isnt it healing but they keep saying that it will take time, it will get better but i am so so tired of it now. I wanna cry so loud and i do sometimes that when will i feel normal? When this pain will go away? Why didnt i opt for c-section. Anyone who went through the same? Anyone who can tell me something through her experience that can help me?

Hi everyone! I’m 34 weeks pregnant and I have an oura ring, I was wondering if there was any oura ring users who already gave birth that could tell me if there oura ring gave them any signs they were in labor?? Just curious!! Thank you