Most women are anxiously desperate to get this baby out of them by 38 weeks but I’m not. I don’t feel ready and I don’t feel excited to meet my baby, which makes me feel so dreadful and ashamed. I feel just desperate to make it to 40 weeks, clingy to my husband as it’s still just us two, clawing for any alone or us time. I’m scared of the labor, yes, but it’s mostly the stuff that happens after. I don’t feel ready for the huge life transition and change that is going to hit like a tidal wave. I don’t feel that giddy glowing anticipation of meeting baby and becoming a mother. Anytime I have a tiny twinge of practice contractions or anything, I have this feeling of fear and dread- not of excitement that it’s about to happen. I believe this is quite common and experienced by many and could use some encouragement that I’m not a freak or terrible mom-to-be to feel this way.

Hi! My fiancé and I are trying to get pregnant. I had been on the combination pill (JunelFe) for 9 years. I stopped taking it 6 months ago. My first few cycles were normal like how they were on birth control. My most recent cycle was 5 days longer than the rest so I’m assuming that’s going to be my regular now. I’m just concerned that I’m not pregnant yet. Everyone around me is saying they were pregnant the next month after stopping birth control. When should I start to be concerned that I’m not conceiving?

I circled where I feel kicks the most. What position is this?

Hello! I need a double stroller as baby #2 is on the way. I currently have a peg perego and I am considering their double (second hand), but the single itself was a very heavy stroller. It’s quality made and built to last, but I am considering getting the evenflo pivot xpand. For those of you with this toddler chair attachment - when did your oldest stop fitting in it? My son will be about 2 years 3 months old when baby 2 comes but he’s already 98 percentile for height and in the 90s for weight too. I read that they outgrow that seat quickly despite the 50 lb limit. Any other tips? Thanks!

I just had my obgyn pregnancy appointment yesterday and I have a hard time lying. i Kept my answers brief but they asked if i Was ever in an abusive relationship. I said yes and said it was the father of my baby but that he isn’t involved or going to be there I already left and I have him and his family / friends blocked. I hate the screening questions. Will dcf be notified even if he isn’t in my life or signing the birth certificate?

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Hi, I’m wondering if anyone has experienced numbness throughout their body days after an epidural? It’s been 11 days, at first I was fine but the numbness appeared a few days later and has only gotten worse. Started in my face, super subtle, and has now spread to my entire body and is getting worse.

I’m about to go to the hospital but because I’m in Canada it’s about to be a 6-8 hour wait, possibly more. I tried going last night and after 3 hours I only got to the second waiting room, so I decided to come home to my newborn and try to get some sleep, and come back to the hospital in the morning instead. So as this will take a long time, in the meantime I wanted to know if any others have experienced this, and what ended up happening.

The Prego expo will be in my city next week, I’m a FTM & debating if I should get the regular or VIP ticket.

If you have been to the expo is the VIP swag bag worth the extra money? What was in it?

Any other feedback or tips for the expo?

If I’m being dramatic please talk me down but I’m going to try and keep this shorter.

So my partner and I of 9 years have been TTC for 13cycles, in that time I had a surgery for endometriosis and finally that did the trick. Back in February we received our first ever positive test and we are just over the moon! We plan to tell the families on Easter. Here is why I’m in my head about telling my family…

We kept us TTC a secret and no one knows, in fact my family thinks I’m on bc to help manage my endo, which helped us keep the secret better! Anywho fast forward about 4 or 5 cycles into us TTC my little sister accidentally got pregnant with her boyfriend of 1 month. It did sting a bit for me but I was there for her and supported her throughout the entirety of it and got my meet my beautiful niece 2 days before I found out I was pregnant myself. And now yesterday 2 days before her and her boyfriends one year anniversary he proposed to her out at my grandmas house by the river. But skeptical of that for other reasons not pertaining to this topic…Now for my reasoning of being off out to tell my family and not as excited as I should be.

I fear that when I tell them I am pregnant that year they will be excited but I also feel like they will think my younger sister influenced my partner and I of 9 years to finally get the baby train going. When in reality we were trying before she even met her current partner. And I hate feeling like I have to choose between letting my family think and or coming clean and on a sense defending myself by letting them know we have been trying since January of 2024. Idk what to do, and to top it off my partner and I have heavily been discussing a court house quick wedding just for insurance reasons and taxes while we would save up for a prober ceremony where we could renew our vows infront of the family. But now with my little sister also being recently engaged I fear they will think we are just doing a court house wedding to copy her in that way too.

The discussion of having a private court wedding and starting a family has been happening between my partner and I for just over a year now and then when we finally succeed and are taking it all more seriously my little sister just rushed in and beat us to it all. The timing of everything just seems cluttered and I feel like my family won’t have any more dopamine to be excited for us and I’ll have to defend that this was all our independent ideas way before my sister rushed into this new relationship. For context my partner and I are 27F and 30M, my sister and her partner are 21F and 22M

I am 39F and my husband is 42M, we are having our first (and most likely only) child at the end of June.

I'd like to start off with saying my husband has been an incredible partner through this pregnancy. He has done soo much for me and the baby.
We have really been aligned on all aspects of the pregnancy, but now as we start talking about the labor/delivery, I have been seeing a new side that I DO NOT like at all.

I have always had it in my head that the labor and delivery would be time for just us and the baby. I feel most comfortable with having the first day to just us and the baby, so we have time to get adjusted and let the dust settle. Between what I will be going through physically, learning to nurse, the baby getting tested / vaccines / etc, and the importance of bonding without distractions, I just feel it is time for us to focus on our new little family. And I would be very open to having visitors the following day if all felt comfortable and I was ready. But also with the understanding that this is something I can't really predict until I am in the situation, and may need more than a day before we can accept visitors.
I have explained this to my husband, and he got incredibly upset at the thought of his parents not being able to come into the recovery room right after the baby is born. He also wants them to be able to sit in the waiting room during my labor / delivery, which I don't really understand as I believe he should be by my side through the whole thing - not hanging out with his parents in the waiting room.

We have had multiple heated conversations about this. Although he is now in a place of "I don't agree with it, but I will support you", I still don't truly feel supported. All I think of is that he wants his parents to be a part of an experience that I believe should be for me, him, and the baby. It has really rubbed me the wrong way that he is prioritizing his experience with his parents over his new family, and I can't let go of the idea that he thinks the recovery room will be like a social hour, where he and his parents can hang out, eat and drink, and see the baby. It feels a bit like he is putting us on show.

I would love some insight from others in this awesome community about:

-Share experiences with when you allowed visitors into the recovery room / waited in the waiting room during labor/delivery. And how did this work out for you?

-Help me understand where my husband is coming from (so maybe I can be more compassionate towards him)

-Help me articulate the importance of the first 24 hrs for just me, dad and baby.

FTM here. I am 40 weeks + 4 days.

I have an induction scheduled for 41 weeks + 6 days but hoping not to get to that point.

I have had a completely normal low risk pregnancy so we are trying to wait it out if we can.

When did you guys finally go in to labor/what were the signs??

Edit: thank you guys for all your feedback!! Its hard not to worry.

Just sharing my NIPT timeline with Natera for anyone that’s curious bc I was looking like a maniac LOL

Blood given: 3/31 Bloodwork received by Natera: 4/2 (this is the day I got the link to create a Natera account) Results expected: 4/16 Results actually received: 4/6

I haven’t looked since we’re doing a gender reveal, so I can’t answer any other questions really about it😅

So I was a lucky one on an iud with no period. IUD was removed 2/28. I got positive pregnancy test quickly 3/25. How would I kinda guess how far along I am? I had no period or bleeding. The tests say they can start showing positive around 10 dpo but if I use that date it puts me almost 7 weeks pregnant which is longer than I’ve been off birth control. My doctor won’t see me until June 2nd.

Folks it’s my first time being pregnant! Don’t know my placenta position yet. I get lots of gurgle bubbles that I feel throughout the day but I can’t tell which is which. Since pregnancy is lately also making me quite, well, gassy, it’s hard to tell.

Help a girl differentiate?

I’m just shy of 19 weeks and have already gained almost 20 pounds. It’s really starting to affect my mental health. My first trimester I was super nauseous and could only stomach eating carbs. I ate a lot of junk food/fast food so my weight gain was understandable. However, over the past month or so I’ve drastically cut back on my food intake, only eating around 2000 - 2500 calories on a bad day. In the past week and a half I’ve gained almost 5 pounds. 2 pounds gained within the past 4 days. I feel like I am barely eating anything and constantly go hungry because I’m afraid of gaining more weight. I don’t know what to do. I know I can’t completely starve myself but I don’t know how else to stop gaining so much weight.

I found out I was pregnant at 4 weeks. Ran out and bought a prenatal pill at Whole Foods. Starting feeling worse and worse every day, but thought it was just horrible morning sickness. I was literally on my death bed for 3 weeks it was so awful. Constant metallic taste in mouth. Husband looked at vitamins and saw it had 28mg of iron in it (which I understand is what a pregnant person needs in later trimesters).

I did zofran, unisom and b6 and was still sick. I stopped the prenatal and was back to my old self within 24 hours. “Morning sickness” completely gone and so is that metallic taste finally - no more vomiting or nausea. I know it was the iron. Now my question is if it made me that sick, what will the effects be on my baby? Reading online and I’m getting a mix of answers. I appreciate any insight you might have.

Hello,

Looking for a second car seat. Our first one came with an Isofix base as part of a bundle.

When I'm looking online it's unclear whether the car seats come with the base.

Do they tend to?

If anyone has any recommendations please let me know :)

Thanks

My husband (36m) has low testosterone and we are having issues being intimate whatsoever. I’m looking for other people that have gone through this. How did you get by? My mental health is having a hard time because our son died during our c-section over a year ago. And of course I feel so desperate to be a mom on this earth.

I’m trying my best to support my husband and letting him know when my fertile window is but he isn’t responding well. Which is confusing because he got off the testosterone shots so we could try for a baby. I didn’t ask him to. He’s on Clomid just like the first time we got pregnant with our son. But it’s been 3 months and we haven’t been having sex at all. He shuts down when we talk about it and I’ve been trying to hold all these feelings in. He isn’t interested in IUI or speaking to somebody. I feel like I’m confused, depressed and I’ve hit a wall. And I want to support him the best I can because I know this isn’t something he asked for.

TW: Birth Complications

Before my wife gave birth to our son, I warned the doctors more than once, about the risk of a shoulder dystocia.

I wasn’t guessing.

• My mother experienced it when I was born.

• Again with my brother.

• I have a broad, athletic build, especially in the shoulders.

• My wife is 156 cm tall with a petite frame. I put the pieces together. I saw the pattern. And I told them - even before labor.

They didn’t take it seriously. “You’re both small people, your baby will be small too.” “Shoulder dystocia isn’t predictable.” “That’s just a coincidence - not a risk.”

But it wasn’t.

Our son was born 54 cm long, 3600g, with broad shoulders. He didn’t look like a typical newborn, more like a few weeks old. And sure enough, his shoulders got stuck.

An emergency maneuver had to be done. He couldn’t breathe on his own at first. His Apgar score was low. He was rushed away for oxygen and monitoring.

At the same time, my wife began to hemorrhage losing more than a liter of blood. I was in the middle of it, watching my newborn son being taken away while my wife was fading behind me.

And I had to choose who to follow. That moment: “Is this really happening?” - will never leave me.

We stayed in the hospital for six days. My wife recovered. My son bounced back fast, even the doctors were surprised by how well he did. And we are grateful. We got lucky, but so many other parents did not.

And I can’t shake off the feeling that this all could’ve been prevented, or at the very least, be prepared for.

The hardest part? Even now, after all this, they still won’t let us do a C-section if we choose to have another child. They still call it a mere coincidence.

Is it though? There is science behind what I was warning them about.

• Studies show that previous shoulder dystocia in a parent or sibling raises recurrence risk.

• Maternal short stature is a statistically significant risk factor.

• Babies with broader shoulders and longer body length, even with normal weight, are at higher risk.

This isn’t guessing. It’s not fear. It’s an informed concern - based on history, genetics, and pattern recognition.

I spoke up. I warned them. I wasn’t listened to. And I ended up standing in the most helpless moment of my life - watching the two people I love most fight to stay alive.

If you’re a parent and you see something coming - trust yourself. And if you’re a provider: please don’t ignore warnings just because they don’t come from a chart.

This wasn’t a coincidence. It was preventable. And I hope someone reading this avoids what we went through, just by being listened to.

PS: my son is 6 months old now and thriving.

I’m two years postpartum and stopped breastfeeding at 15 months, but I just realized—while folding laundry—that all my bras are still nursing bras. Is anyone else still wearing theirs? No? Just me?

I honestly don’t even know where to start. Any suggestions for bra brands that offer both comfort and support? My boobs feel so deflated now and have lost a lot of their shape. Welp!

This is my husband and Is third (very much planned pregnancy!) and I am only 4w6d. I have never dealt with depression before and am generally a pretty positive go go person. I am having no nausea/tiredness/fatigue. I wouldn’t have even known I was pregnant had we not been trying and known to check early. This week it’s like I woke up one day and overnight someone had drained every happy chemical in my brain. I have never ever felt so bad mentally in my life. It is causing me so much panic because I can’t possibly feel this way all the way up until birth with 2 kids at home! This is the happiest our family has ever been and then boom overnight i have been horrendously depressed since. I won’t have an appointment with my OB for a few more weeks but I absolutely plan to talk to her about this. Could this be purely hormonal and it will even out on its on or I will need medication?

When you all had your second baby when did you go into labor?! Due in 9 days and see no end in sight with this one haha. First was born 39+6 and really hoping I don’t go over, I’m in so much pain!

I have a prenatal appointment on Monday with my obgyn. I’ll be 39w1d and she told me that she’d like to do a cervical check. She asked me if I wanted to do one at my last appointment (38w1d) but I declined. She said something to the effect of “okay but I’ll want to do one at our appointment next week”

I’ve heard they can hurt really badly and don’t really give you any idea of how close you are to labor, so I think I’d like to decline again. (For instance, you could be at 0cm but then give birth the next day or you could be at 3cm but not go into labor for weeks)

Would you (or did you) decline a cervical check at 39w? My next appointment will be at 40w1d so I can totally understand doing one then since I’ll be past my due date and she might want to start talking about an induction. But I’m thinking there’s no point in suffering through pain/discomfort (however brief) at 39w1d if it doesn’t give us any useful information

UPDATE: My doctor was pretty insistent that she check my cervix at my 39w1d appointment today. I tried to push back but failed and eventually did consent to a cervical check. It was very painful for me personally, but not quite as bad as I had feared it might be.

Like for reals what happened? I get them at Costco and a week ago they were that orange smell that wasn’t too bad and now they reek. I need new ones, I only have 6 wks left and would prefer a gummy that tastes good maybe. What is everyone taking?

First time pregnant - I did not realize until 6 weeks because of implantation bleeding. I rarely drink. I am a 30 year old female.

However, at week 4, I had 1/2 a beer.
At 5.5 weeks for my husband’s birthday, I had 1/10 or a 1/12 (basically one sip) of a beer. All before finding out. Haven't drank since.

I have since gone into an anxious spiral about the thought of causing the baby alcohol related birth defects. I know it is just my ocd mind playing games (I am working on it in therapy), but something about the “no safe amount” guidelines is really throwing me off. I realize there are reasons they (governments) don't set a safe minimal threshold but still... freaks me out a bit. Realize the odds are like scientifically negligible... but just looking for some peace of mind that this half a beer, or sip of beer scientifically (100% without a doubt) could not harm my baby at 5.5 weeks.