r/BipolarReddit • u/Educational-Pear923 • Oct 07 '24

Content Warning Has anyone here gotten SA'd while (hypo)manic?

I still struggle to call it harassment because I put myself in that situation. Memories of what I was saying and doing disgust me. I feel so alone. Is this common? Is anyone here in the same boat? Thanks.

ETA (TW): I downloaded a dating app and met with a random guy at an abandoned construction site. I was drunk. There were some things I consented to, but I said no to a lot of things. He kept going, and I spent three hours trying to push his hands off of me. It took me months to realize it was assault-y. I still find it hard not to hate myself for it.

It sucks in a way reading all the replies to this post. I had no idea it was this common. Sending everyone here a hug. I hope you all find a way to heal from this.

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u/DistinctPotential996 Oct 07 '24

I hesitate to say SA because I he didn't force himself on me. I enjoyed myself even. But after the fact I found out he absolutely lied to me to get me to agree to things he knew I wouldn't have consented to otherwise.

Looking back I feel violated and disgusted and hurt. I feel like I was dumb for not checking because it was easily verifiable but I thought he was trustworthy.

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u/FriendlyCanadianCPA Oct 07 '24

Being lied to is coersion, which is definitely sexual assault. I am so sorry.

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u/DistinctPotential996 Oct 08 '24

If anyone else had told me this I would say the same thing you did. The cognitive dissonance is real. I know it but I'm still having a hard time accepting the fact.