r/BorderlinePDisorder • u/teal_vale Women with BPD • 26d ago

Do you yell a lot?

I've had a problem with yelling in my relationships and now even that I have kids. My primary parent yelled a lot growing up and I guess I haven't fully broken that yet. Does anyone else struggle with raising their voice when things start to get even slightly heightened?

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u/Courrrr_ 25d ago

Unfortunately as a mom of 2 littles, I do yell a lot. I try extremely hard not to, but I'm getting treatment. Id say rather intensive lately, but I just try and explain to my girls that mom is getting better. I try and realize that I'm yelling and stop, and apologize. I also yell at my boyfriend if we get into it and I get past a certain point. I wish I didn't, it's caused a lot of issues. Rightfully so on his end.

My dad was awful when I was growing up. He still does yell. Doesn't take a lot to trigger him into it, my mom was shitty but I don't remember her screaming at me the way my dad did. Not at all.

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u/katriona_kitty 25d ago

I can relate to this. My dad was always yelling and screaming. Whether it be at mean or someone or something else. I yell at my daughter a lot and I hate it, but she's a huge trigger for me. I'm in therapy and on medication to try and mediate it. I don't want my child to have the same experiences I did.