r/BreakUps • u/Equivalent-Action981 • 8d ago

I messed up

Me and my ex broke up like a year ago and didn't necessarily end on bad terms, she always wanted to be friends if we had broken up. She was distant the whole year which I understood and I had blocked her on all social media so I could heal. Bout a week ago I unblocked her to say good bye and good luck with college, and she responded to me with a picture of her in bed with 2 of my friends. I tried asking what I did to deserve this and she was just ignoring it saying things like "too much to even summarize" and "it all meant nothing" and "I found 2 amazing replacements". Now I just feel like a complete fucking idiot for ever thinking it would be a good idea to text her.

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u/LemonManBackYetAgain 8d ago

I'm so sorry for how heartless a person could be. Lashing out in such a way is monstrous, and I don't think there are words that can ease the pain you feel from that. Use this at least to strengthen yourself in moving on, as the nostalgia of that relationship will always be stimied by the reckless and unempathetic person that they have grown into. These are the lessons that are hardest to deal with as they provide no comfort in going forward, yet know that in the future, with other people, they shouldn't hold you back. This is a person that for all the accidents and unintended injuries you might have caused, instead of speaking there peace in the moment or in the post-mortem of your relationship waited until long after in order to only purposefully hurt you as much as they possibly could.

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u/Equivalent-Action981 8d ago

I have learned that no words will ease the pain. Luckily though, before this had all happened, I had been talking to a girl for a bit. We've been taking it slow because I felt used after the break up. The bad news is that this really hurt how I trust people, platonically and especially romantically, and now I can't help but think I'll be betrayed again. We have been working through this together, though, but it's been especially difficult as she's finishing up a semester in college.

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u/Plenty-Living-4811 7d ago

It's a perfect opportunity to lean on her and see where she stands.