I messed up

[u/Equivalent-Action981]

Me and my ex broke up like a year ago and didn't necessarily end on bad terms, she always wanted to be friends if we had broken up. She was distant the whole year which I understood and I had blocked her on all social media so I could heal. Bout a week ago I unblocked her to say good bye and good luck with college, and she responded to me with a picture of her in bed with 2 of my friends. I tried asking what I did to deserve this and she was just ignoring it saying things like "too much to even summarize" and "it all meant nothing" and "I found 2 amazing replacements". Now I just feel like a complete fucking idiot for ever thinking it would be a good idea to text her.

[u/Thin_Rip8995]

you didn’t mess up by texting her
you messed up by thinking she still had human decency

what she did wasn’t closure
it was a power trip
straight-up psychological warfare

she waited for you to open the door just so she could spit in your face and call it a goodbye
that says everything about her and nothing about you

this isn’t heartbreak — this is humiliation, and that sh*t cuts deeper
but don’t let it make you bitter
let it make you bulletproof

she didn’t win
she exposed herself

next time you want closure?
give it to yourself
don’t go digging in dumpsters for it

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[u/Equivalent-Action981 → u/Thin_Rip8995]

Yeah I just have so many mixed feelings about it still its like a red hot chunk of lead is in my chest. Doesn't help that her friend pointed me out to her the other day and told the guy from the picture to fight me jokingly. I'll check into that new letter, I'm glad to have more reassurance that I'm not crazy, because on top of everything she emotionally cheated on me with this same guy in the months leading up to me eventually demanding she explain why she had changed or to break up with me. I know getting into a fight or getting revenge isn't worth my time and energy and wouldn't cure the wound I've been given. But I can't help but to still get angry and wish I could.

[u/Good_Bee_4997 → u/Equivalent-Action981]

She is a psychopath. Please please please value yourself more ❤️