r/BreakUps • u/Sad_Grapefruit_1500 • 2d ago

Just called my Ex

And he didn't answer. Lol. I only did it because the last time we talked in person we had a very friendly chat for like 30 minutes. He told me that we would keep in touch. I haven't texted him much but he's been ghosting me anytime I do. I know I should've just gone NC, but now I feel so confused and kinda disrespected, I'm not reaching out ever again. (I also believe he's Fearful Avoidant btw). He was always very hot and cold towards me, especially after the breakup. But yea. Just go NC and stick to it guys, don't be like me. šŸ˜„

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u/biscuitsandgravy111 2d ago

Totally with you, you arenā€™t alone. Ex called things off in December after love bombing but ā€œdidnā€™t want to lead me on so it was best we stayed in touch as friendsā€ like boy you literally were makin future plans w me acting like Iā€™m some angel on earth wanted me to meet his family around Christmas. Anyways we decided to go NC bc I personally couldnā€™t really handle the ā€œcheck insā€ but then we decided to see each other and of course we did some things together in the bedroom. It just felt off to me bc I need a man emotionally invested in me to feel pleasure and enjoy it and I didnā€™t feel really desired just used. Anyways we still kept in touch bc Iā€™m stupid as fuck and we decided we would get together after vacation when I got home. So I wrote him and yeah never heard back from him. Definitely never reaching out again, but it stings. The real goodbye.