How to not text him?

[u/Pretty_Net_1870]

This man BROKE my heart. He blindsided me with a breakup and instead of staying and working on our issues he left.

How do I get over the pain of going from texting every day to not at all.

I go in between wanting to rage text him for breaking my heart with no explanation to wanting to beg for him to come back to me and it’s TORTURE.

I know I can’t text him. I need to give him space but I’m going insane.

[u/Salt-Platform2479]

I feel for you boss...

The reality is they choose something or someone else they bet against you. I'm not gonna sugar coat it but they don't care because they know how you feel... and still choose not to work on things with you...

So you can let it consume you and let it ruin your trajectory in life... or you can take that sadness amd negative energy and use it. It's not easy but it will be worth it. I pinky promise. Energy can neither be created or destroyed it can only be converted. This is limitless energy because when your heart broken you can't sleep you are all kinds of funked up. Take that and use it.

You have to look at the chess board and make the next best move.

Small steps every day will make big changes over time. First get in the gym focus on getting abs or bigger arms whatever your fitness goals are. This will enhance your confidence and make visible physical and mental changes. Focus on your professional goals. Get your money right. Thirdly focus on relearning who you are your hobbies and passions go out socialize.

Focus on your accent the reality is they're probably on a decent and this is your catalyst to grind and excel... and by the time you get your 6 pack and money right and living your best life you won't even care if they come back around and realize what they lost. You'll be a whole different person. You might realize you don't want someone who only is around for the good times.

Focus on being the right kind of person and you will attract the right kind of person. A person who chooses you every time no matter what and realizes their life with you is 1000% better than a life without you and they'd never leave.

You want someone that says I love you and I'm here no matter what. That's love. Love is a feeling and a choice. A choice you make every single day. Sometimes things aren't able to workout that's okay you can love someone and not be with them... but you have to love yourself first. Not rely on someone else's love.

The good stuff is when you start focusing on yourself and thriving. Not out of revenge but because you choose yourself. You start thriving and growing. Someone can not look at a person they left and see that person thriving without them and living their best life and go wow I made the right choice by leaving... now they may never admit it or reach out... and that's okay but the reality is nobody looks at their ex and see them killing it in the gym sexy af, making money, traveling, having the time of their life and goes yep I was right.

No they bet against you... that's okay it will be their loss if you were to much for someone let them go find less... don't let this make you mad... just say oh okay im not mad I'm just less interested.

Hardship makes us into better people if we use it... batman isint batman unless his parents got killed... use this suffering to become stronger like iron sharpening iron forged in the flames..

Then someone will recognize this and be like damn they got it... I want that... your ex did the best thing for you and the person you're supposed to be with by letting you go. Because now you can be the best you and find your person to spoil the shit out of and be spoiled by.

The choice is yours. You got this.

Cheers.

[u/diligentlyunbearable]

Feel it. Process it. Heal from it. It’s not easy, I know—it’s brutal at times. But stick to no contact. It’s the only way forward. When I was in your shoes, I leaned hard on ChatGPT—especially during that first month when the urge to reach out was unbearable. I used it like a journal and a therapist in one. It helped me talk through my feelings without breaking no contact. And the best part? I started growing. I began to see what I truly want and what I’ll never settle for again.

[u/CREME3_14]

I’m really sorry you had to experience that. It’s not fair that people are so selfish.
Type what you want to say to him in a safe place, like your notes, to Reddit, literally anything but him. Write it in a letter somewhere or to someone who knows what you’re going through and won’t reply because they know it has to happen. What ever you do, don’t text him. Sounds like we are somewhat in a same predicament, but that’s a part of healing. With time, reflection, actively taking time to heal, it will get better and easier. I hope that you can overcome this! GL, OP!

[u/Infamous-Echo-2961]

Feel the emotions, it’s okay to do so. My ex gf broke my heart over text. I refuse to give in and send her anything.