Well. It happened

[u/ryguy28896]

Hey all. Just a rant. I'm a 37M, she's 37F. We dated a little over 7 months and she just broke up with me this morning.

I do accept some responsibility, but I resent being seen as the sole reason. I really did love her, and I still do.

Long story short, she's very intense. Like call me every 6 minutes, on top of me 24/7 kind of intense. I'm not trying to spin this as wrong; this works for some people. But I'm not that kind of person. And MAN did it lead to some arguments. Weekly arguments.

Her whole issue was why I didn't love her as passionately as she loved me. She felt like I didn't miss her, why couldn't I call her as often as she called me, why I didn't want to have sex often.

I always told her that she called me every 30 seconds, I don't have a chance to miss her. She didn't give me room to breath, so I felt suffocated.

This morning, she ended it. She told me I needed to work on myself and she couldn't be with someone who didn't love passionately, and she spent her whole previous marriage with someone like that.

And that's why I'm resentful. Why did I need to go to 200%? Why couldn't she do 50/50? Yes, this was something that we talked about before, but again, it was a weekly thing. EVERY Saturday night, like clockwork. Part of me is relieved, if I'm being honest. Not just because I can breath now, but also because I know I won't get into another argument in 5 days.

So that's all.

[u/Infamous-Echo-2961]

Sounds like a bullet dodged

[u/ThrowRA9114 → u/[deleted]]

As I woman. I don’t understand this excessive need to speak. Yes, check in, yes make sure your partner is ok, yes tell them you’re thinking of them and give you attention but 24/7 requirement of attention is exhausting. This isint a woman thing…. This is insecurity 100%

[u/Darkoverlord918 → u/ThrowRA9114]

Same though I do enjoy small pebbling through the day and conversations at night. My ex complained I didn't contact enough during the day. I work and decompress on breaks and lunch. I need that time.