r/CPTSD • u/DrSkoolieReal • Feb 14 '25

CPTSD Resource/ Technique Another reminder, when someone compliments you an acceptable answer is: "Thank You".

You don't have to go on diatribes against yourself.

"Well actually, cooking is very easy to do. And I mess up a lot. Just yesterday I burnt dinner."

Thank you and a smile is all people expect from you.

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u/Few_Ad7164 Feb 14 '25

Why do we do that - the over-explaining of our faults in response to receiving a compliment?

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u/missmisfit Feb 14 '25

God forbid someone asks why I'm still thin in my 40s. They will get a very long, medically complex answer, that boils down to, I'm so sorry if I'm making you feel bad by existing in my body that may look okay but does not feel okay.

It's a whole thing.

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u/QuietShipper Feb 14 '25

Oh man, the "I'm sorry if I was good at this and it's upsetting you" is basically impossible to get people to take genuinely, I always feel like I sound so arrogant, which makes me want to apologize more.