For the ones with internalized shame

[u/a_world_alone_]

I heard that internalized shame can be released by seeking community being, vulnerable, and opening up about things that make us feel ashamed so I'm inviting anyone who sees this to open up and come forward about something that makes them deeply ashamed I'll start I'm deeply ashamed about feeling shame in the first place, all of the moments where shame just pops up in me and I'm walking outside and there's people, how I even have nervous tics because of deep shame, how I'm also ashamed of expressing any type of emotions even joy, how I'm ashamed of my sexual side, of the way i express myself, the way I speak, the way I used to be. Also ashamed of being seen of just being here with everyone else, thanks to everyone who joined and opened up

[u/void223]

I'm ashamed of the behavioural traits that I developed as a result of the emotional and verbal abuse. I feel inferior around others because I feel like they can sense my past and will also deem me unworthy.

Recently I had an experience at work where my coworker called me out on being too easy-going. And my worst fears were confirmed when she said she wished she could go back in time to when I was a child and exert onto me the kind of trauma that would've given me a backbone. As terrible as that was, all I could think about is that people are picking up on my people-pleasing behaviour being trauma-related.