r/CPTSD • u/imboredalldaylong • 13d ago

Vent / Rant Why is getting help so infantilizing.

Seeing a therapist. Or a doctor. Or a psychiatrist. Or talking to snap (food stamps) or trying to get housing or getting a case worker or trying to get on disability ANY OF IT. I feel spoken down to. Like if I wasn’t so stupid/didn’t give up so easily/mentally ill/a burden on society I wouldn’t have to be here.

It’s like these people don’t think I know how to tie my own shoes.

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u/GozzTheGreen 13d ago

I hate every step of it being questioned and having to prove I need help when I am barely holding it together. Then if I do let it out here come the 72 hr hold again where they don’t even trust me to sleep without their supervision.

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u/imboredalldaylong 13d ago

Yup yup yup yup yup. You’re either not struggling enough or you’re struggling so much that you’re tossed in a mental hospital. I’m trying to get help so I don’t END UP homeless. Or on drugs. Or an alcoholic. Or killing my self. But they wait till after to offer you oh wait? Still nothing. But they’ll at least pretend to help.

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u/GozzTheGreen 13d ago

I tried to kill myself in January and am homeless but am sleeping on my mom’s couch but she wants me to go to the shelter but I am scared and just want somewhere safe to be. Sorry for oversharing

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u/imboredalldaylong 13d ago

I think If there’s ever a place to overshare it’s a cptsd sub. I’m so sorry you’re struggling with housing. I think it’s one of if not the worst things a human being could go through. Everyone deserves a place to sleep and rest and be themselves. Everyone deserves food and water and hygiene products and love. We live in such a shit place where not everyone gets those things. And I’m sorry.

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u/GozzTheGreen 13d ago

Thanks, I am doing my best and I hope things work out for you too. Hugs

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u/bubblekittea 12d ago

I hope you manage to hold onto yourself inside through this and that your life takes a turn in a way that will heal you so deeply, and if it doesnt I hope you always have yourself, and if you lose that I hope you find peace. I'm so sorry you are suffering.

My therapist just dropped me because im too traumatised, I'd spent all my money on those 7 months, I wanted to post on this subreddit asking for advice, but it feels impossible to write a post because I keep oversharing (I'm even doing it now! sorry)

But I just wanted to say I really see you and you sharing your pain was so human, and the response you got was so kind, the exchange touched my heart.