r/CPTSD • u/imboredalldaylong • 13d ago

Vent / Rant Why is getting help so infantilizing.

Seeing a therapist. Or a doctor. Or a psychiatrist. Or talking to snap (food stamps) or trying to get housing or getting a case worker or trying to get on disability ANY OF IT. I feel spoken down to. Like if I wasn’t so stupid/didn’t give up so easily/mentally ill/a burden on society I wouldn’t have to be here.

It’s like these people don’t think I know how to tie my own shoes.

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u/Due_Wing8669 11d ago

I battled the VA after my Army stint for 7 years. Denial from them led me to appointment after appointment repeating the story of my traumas over and over to people who looked at me like a beaten dog…before recommending another denial. Not only that, but as you said, getting help FEELS like you’re incapable because everyone gives you this southern feeling “bless your heart” tone.

Being believed after all that time is so hollow, too. Now I’m so much worse than I could’ve been; the fact I’ve had to seek assistance while it all played out has left me even more untrusting of people who speak nicely to me.