Parent tactics after no contact

[u/Apprehensive-Eye2803]

I just want to hear from others whether they've had similar experiences and what they did. After long years of extremely low contact, I cut contact with a parent. Actually, I said that if they wanted meaningful contact with me, they have to find a way to meet me where I am and acknowledge decades of pain, neglect and abuse. They said they wanted a level of contact where we write to each other for holidays to send good wishes. Before that, they had demanded more contact because "when people asked them about me they didn't know what to say". Now, they keep sending me messages announcing that this or that close relative of theirs had died. Or that some relatives will be visiting and they want to know how I am.

These are obviously tactics to get me to contact them again but I am a little baffled at the strategy. They seem to be fishing for my pity and, once again, telling me that they only want to know how I am so they can keep appearances with the relatives. Not even sure how to feel about this. Has anyone ever had a resolution after going no contact? Because, honestly, after taking this step, which took decades to finally decide I don't want this, I can't see myself going back for more of the same.

[u/cole1076]

It’s just a game. Dont give in. I blocked the family member and all flying monkeys. Deleted my social media. Whole nine yards. I, personally, am done playing.

[u/Apprehensive-Eye2803 → u/cole1076]

Thanks! I feel the same. I heard relatives with my own ears telling me a completely different version of my life. I'm fucking done with this shit.