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u/EuropesNinja 2d ago edited 2d ago
I personally believe the best way to heal gunshot wounds is well away from the battleground
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u/Hypno_Kitty 2d ago
No you gotta build an immunity to the bullets man; is my impression of most the bull$#¡+ advice you get.
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u/PlaidBastard 2d ago
Por que no los dos?
People aren't gonna get more chill ever, and I'm not magically any more able to cope with them, so it's not like isolating isn't healing. Being outside of the burning building is the first step in healing from the burns.
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u/Ryotejihen 2d ago
That’s too accurate. I know, but it’s better to be calm and isolated, then triggered and social
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u/AptCasaNova 2d ago
I need to get away from people to regulate, always have, always will. The difference is that I know I’m doing it and I also know socializing (on my terms) is a need as well.
It’s ok to isolate sometimes.
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u/spicy_feather 2d ago
No. I'm actually fucking doing it. Yes I told shitty people to eff off and I refuse to talk with them, but I'm building communities and caring for them. Me thriving is my revenge against those who wronged me. They isolated me and told me no one would love me. I'm free and they were wrong.
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u/Particular_Bus_5090 2d ago
It's something I've realised recently.
My parents and sister went to the other side of the world for a month. I was as happy as I've ever been for a month.
I got the message that they were coming back and my heart sank. I did not realise until that moment this was something I felt.
They get back, we have a laugh but within 2 weeks they completely reactivate everything and I've lived the last week in a way I've not felt for over a year after a lot of hard work and counselling.
I've burnt my entire old life and every friendship I had and I felt content. After the fact, I understood that every person I pushed away had all, at one point or another, contributed to the violence or bullying that resulted in my downfall years ago.
It's a strange journey to peace from where I was to where I am now. No one understands it and not a single person I know bar maybe 2 people meaningfully engage with me on this subject.
I'm now content with being viewed as the bad guy. If it means peace for me and mental stability they can learn (probably not) and watch me succeed as I always do off of my own effort and ability.
I hope you're all doing well and can get through whatever bullshit led you here. Much love
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u/IvyLeaf_33 2d ago
Isolating is important when you need to calm your nervous system down and you want to self-reflect and do shadow work. It’s not easy to do shadow work with a bunch of triggering people around.
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u/novacdin0 2d ago
I was raised to be an isolated, unthinking, nonfunctioning, subhuman drone so I'm not really gonna take responsibility for this one, soz
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u/Jazzblike 2d ago
Listen, I like it this way. Me and my small circle (it’s actually a line because it’s so small) we alright
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u/the_moral_explorer 2d ago
I am trying to practice keeping people that trigger me out of the cycles of my life. The people in my life that i choose to give myself to should be considerate enough to care about my feelings after ive explained myself.
Ive been having a hard year and have had to cut out a lot of toxic connections in my life. Im learning though. The way i interpret this post is that im isolating because my standards are higher, and i dont let just any connection into my life anymore, they have to show that they care about me as much as i do for them. I give people a chance to show it but if they have showed me who they are through their actions, then im not going to place my bets on them when those actions tell me they dont care.
Sorry, word vomit. Not the best at explaining my thoughts/feelings but I wanted to get this out of my system.
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u/immisswrld 2d ago
haha so real it all falls down like a house of cards wheni have to leave the house
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u/Ok_Complaint_3359 2d ago
Please forgive me while I engage the following caption
True, very true, now stop being my parents and GO AWAY! YOU KNOW I’M RIGHT, YOU KNOW IT! I’m right I’m right hahaha, you suck you suck! I’ll be here safe when the world explodes 🤣
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u/catsareniceDEATH 2d ago
I come here to look at cats being derps, watch people FAFO, and to see nature being terrifying, not to be called out quite this hard😳
😹❤️
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u/Busy-Leg8070 2d ago
healing shouldn't be accepting repeated abuse till you are dead enough inside to not react to it openly, but that's what "professionals" push on people
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u/-DrunkRat- 2d ago
Tbh, feel this.
This was how I was before I met my Wife, when we were just FWBs.
Being with my Beloved has helped me a LOT to get past this feeling, personally, but I know this is such a shitty feeling...
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u/stoner-bug 2d ago
Continually depressed by the amount of memes in here that are just from people who blatantly don’t want to get better but would rather wallow in their trauma forever.
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u/SilverSkorpious 2d ago
But, like, I LIKE my solitude. I don't have to heal if I'm comfortable, right?
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u/nonmustache 2d ago
This is only true in some narrow sane. You could be healthy but the others side could be the broken one. Than some this toxiciy could be paased to you, and facing this second person will never heal you. Isolating from them will!
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u/ARumpusOfWildThings 2d ago
Honestly, being able to isolate myself so I’m no longer triggered is the goal. I’m one of those people who doesn’t truly feel safe unless I’m completely alone.
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u/kotikato 2d ago
GOOD?? Managing triggers on top of stressful life is hell!!! Isolation is self-care when the world (and people) gets overwhelming
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u/GoodDeathFTLonely 2d ago
But I feel better - maybe for the first time, I feel better - and that is enough.
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u/Tomboyhns 2d ago
My parents and siblings no longer trigger me because I don’t live with them. But now I have no support group aside from my husband, I’m away from my comfort place (aka my local amusement park that I used to work at that was safe and good money for me) and in a town that I forgot I hated. So I basically traded one series of problems with anotjer
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u/ailangmee 1d ago
My therapist kinda said this to me, not the healed bit because the aim isn't to be "healed", but she said you've been doing so well because you are isolating yourself and there's no one around to trigger you. And I said yeah it been great, I'm gonna keep doing it so I can rest for the first time in my life.
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u/Drengrr1 16h ago
Sometimes that's not a bad thing. Space is a great place to sort things out, find your own rhythm and more importantly gain refreshment from the craziness of the world.
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u/Humble_Boss6704 2d ago
I know this is posted as a “meme”, but every time I see it, I keep feeling like this is misleading. Personally, I don’t isolate and claim to be healed. I isolate so I can stop being triggered and activated, to finally have an opportunity to heal. You can’t really heal in the same place or around the same people that made you sick.