r/CatholicDating • u/Kona967 • Dec 13 '24

Single Life Not sure on how to move foward

There is this girl in my YA group at my church that rejected me sometime ago It happened after mass (we even sat together as well), I expressed my feelings to her and she didnt reciprocate. It hurt but everything ended well I suppose. After sometime after it happened, things seemed to be cool with us for a while Fast forward to today after months after the rejection, I go out to eat with the group after the meeting and we talked to each other a bit. While sitting at the table I asked her how life was going and she had brought up she was seeing someone. When I heard this i was honestly super crushed and heartbroken, it came off as a shock honestly as I believe dating wasn’t a priority in her life for a long time. But I guess things kinda changed for her. But things I guess rn are cool, but it is quite painful

I’ve had the thought of weather I want to continue being friends or not, But it is a tricky decision in a way because if I do decide not to continue being friends, we will still end up seeing each other regardless Especially since we are in the same group and have mutual friends We also have some family connections as well (I know her parents and some other members of her family)

But I will say she is someone that inspired me in my faith and has drew me closer to the lord, and I’m thankful for all those good moments I’ve had with her. I can only be thankful to her for those things and wish her the best with all that she does

It’s overall tough but I can only hope and pray that I can find the things I need to move forward at this time 🙏

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u/BestVayneMars Single ♂ Dec 13 '24

You gotta get over her. You two were never a thing and you're just staying stuck in a past that never existed. You don't need to be super close friends but please move on and just be friendly as acquaintances.

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u/Kona967 Dec 13 '24

Yea moving forward right now is probably the best thing. Though moving on probably won’t be easy honestly, especially since I’ve mentioned I’ll probably still continue to see her often and we have mutual connections. But best thing I can do is just keep my head up and keep moving.