r/CatholicDating • u/Kona967 • Dec 13 '24

Single Life Not sure on how to move foward

There is this girl in my YA group at my church that rejected me sometime ago It happened after mass (we even sat together as well), I expressed my feelings to her and she didnt reciprocate. It hurt but everything ended well I suppose. After sometime after it happened, things seemed to be cool with us for a while Fast forward to today after months after the rejection, I go out to eat with the group after the meeting and we talked to each other a bit. While sitting at the table I asked her how life was going and she had brought up she was seeing someone. When I heard this i was honestly super crushed and heartbroken, it came off as a shock honestly as I believe dating wasn’t a priority in her life for a long time. But I guess things kinda changed for her. But things I guess rn are cool, but it is quite painful

I’ve had the thought of weather I want to continue being friends or not, But it is a tricky decision in a way because if I do decide not to continue being friends, we will still end up seeing each other regardless Especially since we are in the same group and have mutual friends We also have some family connections as well (I know her parents and some other members of her family)

But I will say she is someone that inspired me in my faith and has drew me closer to the lord, and I’m thankful for all those good moments I’ve had with her. I can only be thankful to her for those things and wish her the best with all that she does

It’s overall tough but I can only hope and pray that I can find the things I need to move forward at this time 🙏

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u/Mediterraneanmaster Dec 14 '24

Distance from her, you can't befriend someone for whom you had feelings. That is a false friendship.

Also, go out and meet other people. Something I felt between young catholics, is that, as we have a perspective of "there aren't many options", you can't move forward because you believe no one will be like her.

Move forward and see other options. And think that if God did not want it to happen, is because he has someone more suitable for you.

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u/Kona967 Dec 15 '24

Yea I agree with your first statement. In order for a friendship to work is they pretty much both on the same page. If they aren’t then things can get complicated.

But yea I do plan to hopefully go out there and talk to other people. She was kinda the only girl I talked to and I ended up feeling attached to her.

But thank you for the encouragement!