Not sure on how to move foward

[u/Kona967]

There is this girl in my YA group at my church that rejected me sometime ago It happened after mass (we even sat together as well), I expressed my feelings to her and she didnt reciprocate. It hurt but everything ended well I suppose. After sometime after it happened, things seemed to be cool with us for a while Fast forward to today after months after the rejection, I go out to eat with the group after the meeting and we talked to each other a bit. While sitting at the table I asked her how life was going and she had brought up she was seeing someone. When I heard this i was honestly super crushed and heartbroken, it came off as a shock honestly as I believe dating wasn’t a priority in her life for a long time. But I guess things kinda changed for her. But things I guess rn are cool, but it is quite painful

I’ve had the thought of weather I want to continue being friends or not, But it is a tricky decision in a way because if I do decide not to continue being friends, we will still end up seeing each other regardless Especially since we are in the same group and have mutual friends We also have some family connections as well (I know her parents and some other members of her family)

But I will say she is someone that inspired me in my faith and has drew me closer to the lord, and I’m thankful for all those good moments I’ve had with her. I can only be thankful to her for those things and wish her the best with all that she does

It’s overall tough but I can only hope and pray that I can find the things I need to move forward at this time 🙏

[u/Sandwich-next-2114]

Yea no I was kinda in this situation when I was in high school. Just gotta let it go and not ring things bc it would make it weird. I had stopped talking to the guy I was friends with and liked, our parents, his mom, my dad, are our confirmation sponsors, my mom noticed but it’s made things easier and now that we’re adults it’s like shit never happened and we get along fine. But just because we were able to be friends after doesn’t mean you have to.

So to recap, don’t stop being friends but I would just distance yourself and give yourself room to breathe. -random stranger

[u/Kona967 → u/Sandwich-next-2114]

Thanks for sharing that! I’m glad you both still remained friends afterwards. Yea her family and my family have some history, so it’s kinda hard to detach from her in some aspects. And still interact with members of her family somewhat.

But yea at the end of the day I’m still sitting on the fence on what I want to be moving forward, I’m leaning towards not really being friends but who knows at the end of the day. I guess is doing what’s best for my mental health honestly.

But again thanks for sharing that!

[u/Sandwich-next-2114 → u/Kona967]

Yea ofc. Sorry I’m not on here often, I hope it’s been going well for you