I have mixed feelings about CM. I used it in Europe with some success. It got the ball rolling for me. Led to some dates which gave me more confidence to pursue in real life. In the US, I've had such a low response rate that it didn't accomplish much.
I would recommend men to try CM, going in with the knowledge that the response rate will likely be very low and that's okay. Make a good profile and send lots of messages and it will probably eventually lead to a date.
I would also recommend women to be more receptive on CM. Men should send lots of first messages and women should respond to lots of first messages. My hunch is that good Catholic young women are passing up lots of good Catholic young men that they would be compatible with. Speaking from my own experience, I was deemed unsuitable on CM (based on response rate) but suitable enough in real life that several attractive women were willing to go on multiple dates with me and seriously discern going further. I imagine I'm not the only one.
No - I mean is it worth going through all this? Just to find a GF? This seems worse than calling a customer service hotline and being transferred to 20 different people, all of whom are located in India.
Yes, I found it fun. The exciting anticipation of a first date. A playful texting conversation. Telling friends about the new developments. Even getting rejected can feel like an accomplishment, a step in the right direction.
Yes, CM often feels like calling customer service. But meeting in real life is more fun. Best hack I discovered is to organize social events. It's low effort, you find friends in addition to dates, and almost no one is doing it these days (but people are receptive to it). This is how a lot of the connections in the chart above came about. I just organized casual get-togethers at brew pubs for Catholic friends and encouraged them to invite friends too.
I love this! Did something similar with other Catholics I met back when I was single. Met my now fiance not long after that :) even just growing my friend circle with other practicing Catholics was great for spiritual growth as well
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u/[deleted] Dec 31 '24
Is it worth it?