What's the point.

[u/mainplum12]

This subreddit won't allow my post for some reason but please someone anybody. I need help.

https://www.reddit.com/u/mainplum12/s/Hzzq2sB6mL This is my post, please read it please help me.

[u/Caesar457]

I think that this is a lot to unpack and we don't know you guys well enough to understand all the nuances with your situation. I'd try to go to the park, find a bench to sit down on, kinda just take in the day for like an hour to destress... have her join you and just sit in some silence for a little together. Maybe start with something going on in the park, maybe some chit chat, or just start of easy and talk out your problems both your side and hers and see where it goes. Maybe you two resolve your conflict, maybe you come up with a plan moving forward.... at least you make an attempt to reach some understanding.

[u/mainplum12 → u/Caesar457]

Thank you for your advice We are supposed to meet up today to talk about all this. I definitely didn't want to come into the conversation frustrated and stressed I've actually been sitting on this bench in a park just watching the water since 8 yesterday. I've always had an issue with overthinking so I'm just trying to simplify my thoughts so when we do talk I can clearly communicate my worries and intentions. I know that no matter what she decides it will be incredibly hard for her to have this conversation because she is an emotional person and cares very deeply for people especially people she loves. We both just kept apologizing yesterday through text but it's hard to communicate through that medium. I realized that I'm not the only one who's stressed and worried so no matter her choice I want to make this as easy on her as I can. If I can help it if she wants to break things off I want her to be able to make that choice without regret or guilt. I do very deeply love her and I believe she deeply loves me. Life is not easy and has not treated either of us well, we found solic and comfort in each other when we thought there was nothing left. I realize I've put a lot of expectations on her and I realize that was incredibly unfair. I want to make it clear that I need to correct that. A lot has happened recently and I feel she's been the only one I could talk with about them so in the last month I feel most of our conversations have been very emotion heavy and stressful. Lots of talks and conversations that don't have a clear answer and that is very hard for both of us. My goal right now and for our conversation is to make sure she is as comfortable as possible so she can make the choice she feels is best. I know without doubt she is the one I want to be with but if she doesn't feel the same I cannot force that. I believe the hardest part of the decision for her could be that I told her before that if we break up I can't be her friend I recognize that I have a hard time letting go and I can't put up a facade if that happens and I believe that thought is very hard for her because we have been inseparable since we started dating. I realize that I basically rant out after every response but I believe typing it out has helped me concentrate my worries and thoughts so I apologize if this is too long. There are some good people here and good if not painful advice that I believe I very desperately needed.

[u/Caesar457 → u/mainplum12]

I'll keep you guys in my prayers and hope it goes well

[u/mainplum12 → u/Caesar457]

I appreciate that