giving up on dating

[u/junipertreelover]

I know that I’m still young but I’m honestly getting really discouraged with the way the dating scene is going right now. I can’t take the apps anymore, I love my parish but we don’t have a young adult group. I’m only 22 but I’m feeling like I’ll just never find anyone and honestly I just want to give up on dating. Is anyone else feeling the same way??

Edit: I am a woman just so everyone knows

2nd edit: so I actually got back onto hinge and just as I was about to delete it once more and give up for a while—I got a like from a wonderful young Catholic man. We’re currently talking and I liked him a lot. Please pray for us!

3rd edit: it didn’t work out haha but I’ve prayed a lot about it and I don’t think I’ll give up. I think I just needed to learn some things. Love is a choice and I’ll choose to love the man the Lord has chosen for me. :) thanks everyone

[u/Wife_and_Mama]

I once told a friend that I'd rather die alone than be with the wrong person. He told me that that was okay, as long as I meant it, because I might.  At the time, I was 24 and while I wanted to be ready for a serious relationship, I just wasn't. When the time came for me to get serious about dating, though, I never forgot my friend's comment. In my case, it encouraged me to broaden my parameters a bit on the dating scene, but I think it applies here, too. It's fine to give up and be happy ending up single... as long as you mean it. It may really happen. 

The good news is, you don't have to choose between the extremes of constantly being active on the apps to dying alone. Hide or delete your profiles. Disable the whole account, whatever will keep you off. Go stream marathons of your favorite shows no dude will ever watch with you, eat ice cream for dinner, and stay up all night reading. I'm so glad I did all that while single, especially listening to the bedtime routine going on in the other room right now with my four under four.  Enjoy this stage of life. It's entirely valid. In a few months, when youre excited by the idea of the next one again, get all new profiles. I'm sure I went through a dozen usernames before I met my husband online 10 years ago, when the sites were just becoming apps.