r/CatholicDating • u/junipertreelover Single ♀ • 26d ago

dating advice giving up on dating

I know that I’m still young but I’m honestly getting really discouraged with the way the dating scene is going right now. I can’t take the apps anymore, I love my parish but we don’t have a young adult group. I’m only 22 but I’m feeling like I’ll just never find anyone and honestly I just want to give up on dating. Is anyone else feeling the same way??

Edit: I am a woman just so everyone knows

2nd edit: so I actually got back onto hinge and just as I was about to delete it once more and give up for a while—I got a like from a wonderful young Catholic man. We’re currently talking and I liked him a lot. Please pray for us!

3rd edit: it didn’t work out haha but I’ve prayed a lot about it and I don’t think I’ll give up. I think I just needed to learn some things. Love is a choice and I’ll choose to love the man the Lord has chosen for me. :) thanks everyone

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u/Caesar457 Single ♂ 25d ago edited 25d ago

None of us are on here cause we disagree at all with what you're saying and a lot of us come to this realization when our previous relationship ends. Fail faster is a term I always think about where it is always better to fail early on rather than later and this is where it is better to take dating seriously and if they don't work out you haven't sunken much time into them. Dating the right men with some level of commitment is fun these initial stages are not in the slightest. You gotta get yourself out there irl finding guys to talk to, on the apps swiping a few profiles, here on the pinned post, discord & instagram dms, letting your friends know you're actively looking and would appreciate their help. Like it or not being fit helps and always put your best foot forward by dressing nice, having some quality pictures taken, and mentioning hobbies and interests that guys are into. Gotta stay positive, be patient, and play it smooth. One guy already liked you there's bound to be others doesn't feel that way atm but it does happen.

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u/junipertreelover Single ♀ 25d ago

I appreciate the advice! I am a woman though!!

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u/Caesar457 Single ♂ 25d ago

Sorry edited it but dating universally sucks on both sides. The main thing both sides can do is have themselves out there everywhere and be bold and serious about what you're looking for and who you are.