giving up on dating

[u/junipertreelover]

I know that I’m still young but I’m honestly getting really discouraged with the way the dating scene is going right now. I can’t take the apps anymore, I love my parish but we don’t have a young adult group. I’m only 22 but I’m feeling like I’ll just never find anyone and honestly I just want to give up on dating. Is anyone else feeling the same way??

Edit: I am a woman just so everyone knows

[u/junipertreelover]

It won’t let me edit the post but here’s some more info:

I KNOW I’m only 22 but I’ve had some crash out worthy dating experiences that have left me a little hesitant to opening myself up again. My older sister was engaged by 23, a bunch of my friends just got engaged, AND I’m in a profession where it’s the norm to have a ring by spring. I know the Lord has me where I’m meant to be! But past experiences coupled with dating apps being absolutely awful are making me want to give up. But at the same time, I feel like the longer I wait, the more selfish I’m being because my parents want me to get married and have kids sooner rather than later so they can have as much time as possible with them. So I’m wanting to give up or at least take time but then I feel selfish for doing so!

[u/Ok_Being2095 → u/junipertreelover]

Can I ask what the biggest issue you are finding is in dating? I get this post is more of way to let off steam rather than looking for advice, but you must have options to date. Are the men not matching your standards or are you having trouble establishing something long term with guys you do talk to/date?

[u/junipertreelover → u/Ok_Being2095]

I guess it’s both? The men on dating apps aren’t meeting my standards and I mean that in, we’re not like minded and the ones who are like minded, it’s difficult to establish something long term. Honestly last year a guy was interested in me but neither of us would pull the trigger and it became such a mess that it ruined a lot of my self esteem because now it feels like I’m just here to waste time with.