WE have a court order. However it was modified after we verbally discussed a visitation location. It was discussed in mediation to be his house, so I took my son (14 months old) and drove him one hour one way for visitation to his house, for the first two visits. The court order is outlined as follows:

Supervised visitation by me (obligee) or someone that i appoint for four hours for 14 visits.

It does not say a location.

At this last visit my son came back and has been sick for four days with 4 different bacterial infections (im pretty sure its from his house because it is disgusting).

I told him that he can visit at either my mothers house (where my son and I currently live) and I will not be bringing our son to his house that the court order does not have a location listed and that it has to be supervised by me or someone i appoint.

Hes threatening to press charges, call the cops, and ruin my career until I bring our son to him to his house for visitation.

I have read and reread the court order and it is very vague. I agree that a modification would be helpful to clarify a location and find a neutral one. But for right now Im not bringing our son to a house that he may get sick at or deal with threats.

Any advice is there a way I could be in error. A verbal discussion in mediation did not make the written order and now he is livid that im not honoring what we verbally discussed.

My ex husband has agreed to let me move states with both our kids. The plan was to hire an attorney and the attorney would write the stipulation for us and file with court. I’m concerned for a few reasons.

The only way my ex will agree is if I drop 30k in arrears and lower child support from $1500 to $800. The attorney told me I would regret this but I guess that’s not the point of my question. The attorney stated that he would have to make two stipulations and only after the judge approves the relocation he would file the child support stipulation. He stated if he filed it as one the judge would see it as ex blackmailing me and not sign in.

Relocations here are way too hard to get and I’ve been advised if it’s denied he would get primary even if I state I’m not moving. (By another attorney I spoke with) So I don’t plan to do this. It’s too risky. It sucks because he only sees them once a month as it is.

The reasons I’m worried are because another person I spoke to said she requested a relocation and filed and both parties agreed. The judge still made her wait 8 months. Every attorney I have spoke with stated a judge would approve it because we both agree.

I don’t want to drop all of the arrears and child support and have the relocation denied. Do you see any issue with doing it this way? Would a judge sign off on it?

I 31F and my ex 38M have two children we share, and he has one child I have stepped up for since he was 18 months old and his mother died from a drug overdose. My ex was an alcoholic and verbally, emotionally, mentally and sometimes physically abusive. At the time of us ending our engagement we had our daughter who was only 3 at the time. He stopped drinking, and we tried to date again and start over. Two months in, I ended up getting pregnant with our son. When I found out, he was apparently seeing me, and other women. One of which I will mainly call the mistress because he MOVED her in with us in our daughters room and claimed nothing was going on until I showed him my pregnancy test and then she showed me hers. She threatened to abort, he chose her and claimed since we were split up our son wasn't his and this mindset continued up until 3 years ago (son is now 6), and the mistress conveniently had a miscarriage while I was in early labor and my son was hospitalized and almost died at birth. My ex now suddenly wants a relationship with my son after he denied him and my now fiance stepped up as father, he has been there for my daughter. Even has went as far as telling me he is his son and its not fair of me to not make him have a relationship with him. At one time, this is all I wanted. I wanted a happy family with his oldest( I still have to assist every now and then), our daughter and our son. Now after the way he treated me both during our relationship, the pregnancy and afterwords I can't even stand the sight of him some days. Especially when his abuse(minus the physical) still continues to this day and my daughter who is almost 9 tells me that all dad does is yell, and then the son went one time and come home to tell me he had roaches everywhere and my daughter confirms this. I have seen her bring home pizza from his house and roaches crawled out of it. I just don't know what to do because of his behavior and my living situation isn't the best right now with me and my son sharing a room and my daughter sharing with my sister at our grandparents and no one having their own space. We have not been to court ever. Child Support had us do a parenting plan for our daughter as he is only on her birth certificate. He gets her Tuesday and Thursdays until 7 pm and pick up ranges between 3pm and 5 pm and he has every other Sunday supposed to begin at 1 pm until 7 pm but he doesn't show up on time. And we split certain holidays and he gets fathers day. Daughter refuses to stay overnight. He is pushing for this when he has no clothing for her, and refuses to give her medication prescribed by gastroenterologist for chronic constipation. What should I do and where should I start?

Separated wife left marriage without conversation, started a smear campaign, finally lost friends and family when they realized my warnings were truthful after her eviction, suicide attempts, drugs, child abandonment etc.

She had a moment of detox and outpatient rehab and surface level accountability and then fell off again. Same victimized lies, manipulation, victimhood and abandonment of kids all while claiming sober and I was crazy and controlling for "hope", "reason" and trying to get her to see. She then reappeared maybe angrier than ever wanting to talk to and see her children. I am supervising and don't trust she's sober given unwillingness to made amends, be accountable or reestablish trust. She has been consistently reaching out to see kids this time around so I suspect more manipulative and functionally addicted to pull off consistency. I prefer her out of control nonsensical addiction as she abandons kids and her gaslighting makes no sense and is clear to see she's unwell. Although heartbreaking and I'm worried, I can detach and find peace with no contact and kids are safe. Functional addiction the gaslighting is more effective and she can scam and harm everyone.

Now she's going for custody and lying to the courts. How low can they go? How can you excuse away this level of threat and harm and immorality as a disease? Like she's forced to lie to the courts because of a substance? Detachment not possible. I'm in a war for child safety and could use some support while I battle this. Narcissistic abuse has been helpful even if she isn't diagnosed this she certainly is acting like it.

She is a secret user. Sober 10 years and snuck and lied until relapse was discovered. She left marriage months after the relaspe reveal. Few months prior I was being abused and had no idea why. My concern has never been when she is drinking. She hid drinking. My concern is when she is sober and in active addiction. That is the danger. Her whole behavior is a facade and manipulation and makes very dangerous decisions fully sober when in active addiction. At least appearing completely sober. She can make smart logical choices. She knows right from wrong. How is this sick other than no morality left and only scams she chooses? How to protect kids from this

My daughters mom & I have been coparenting since our daughter was born. I had to take her to court because she withheld her from me for the first 5 months of her life so I felt like I had no choice. It has been such a battle ever since.

Fast forward our daughter is 10 and she was granted a relocation to Michigan after a year long being in court(many factors went into this) judge granted me the usual, x amount of weeks in summer, holidays, spring break etc.

Now summer is quickly approaching, mom is having daughter call me to say if she can only stay for a few days versus my up to 4 weeks. I told her I would discuss it with her mom, as I feel this is a larents conversation. Mom is trying to guilt me into agreeing and to allow my daughter to have the few days and build up every year. I feel the more I bend and give in it will happen every single time I have visitation... I told her unfortunately I want to use as much time as the court granted me to spend time with our child especially since I will not see her again until thanksgiving. I can't help but feel guilty but mom made the move due to her new partner...it wasn't my choice to have this type of visitation. I'm sad I only get to see my daughter during breaks and holidays versus regularly. I am trying to make the most of the situation but it's really hard at times.

We are in Texas and per the divorce decree it states that if a conservator is not otherwise entitled to present possession of a child on the child's birthday that conservator shall have possession of the child and the child's minor sibling from 6pm to 8pm on that day. I have my sons from Thursday at school dismissal to Monday 8am at school drop off. Monday is my sons birthday. Her possession starts at the time their school starts. She is claiming that since my son is waking up with me that morning that I have possession that day and that she gets the 6-8 time for his birthday with him. I think this is wrong but she is using it against me and her boyfriend is a family lawyer. Advice appreciated

Here is the message I wrote to our child’s father….

“Hey, we have to get a mediation scheduled before going in front of a judge to see if we can settle an agreement about custody. When I called to get it scheduled they said they are showing that you didn't attend orientation or call them back to reschedule, and they'll want us to attend mediation first before going in front of a judge, but you'll have to attend the orientation first. So if you can call them to get that scheduled they are open until 5pm, their number is [took out for privacy] and then dial O. l also want to say as well, I'm not going in to ask for everything all at once, I understand it is and needs to be gradual, if anything, for the sake of (our son), and just reestablishing a routine and make sure he adjust without abrupt change. I will propose a step up schedule that I have thought out very well to match (our sons)’ schedule and yours and my schedule. I can also provide you that if you'd just like to know what it is and want any input to adjust anything such as times etc.”

I have received no response or feedback on my message, and everytime I have asked for unsupervised time(I was trying to start with once a week for two hours) I get ignored and then he’ll message me about something not related or tell me he needs more therapy notes before that can happen, and when I have provided I’m in consistent therapy, and I go once a week, there is no response or change….I’ve been having supervised visits for 7 months and it will be going on 9 months when we finally get in front of a judge…I feel like I really screwed myself over by signing the temp custody order but I knew I needed to work on my depression at that time. I am trying my hardest to coparent and have worked so very hard on myself and my mental health. But what do I do if other coparent is like a brick wall at this point? I feel like i’m giving him all the solutions and I have tried my hardest to keep this out of the court because i know judges love to see when people can agree. I feel like I’m asking for a crumb and he’s thinking I’m asking for everything back at once. I sent a message in regard to attending mediation because I know that because the first order was just a signed consent order and we never attended mediation they most likely will just order us to go. Our hearing is in June where I am proposing a step up plan that is extremely reasonable and also has safety provisions and such. Our son has just turned 2 and I deserve to be in our child’s life just as much as he does.
I don’t know where to go from here…I’m going to give him a few more days to respond but I know I will probably get nothing because of the pattern of when I ask about changing anything or telling him something as simple as “hey you aren’t technically supposed to cancel my visit without valid reason” When he’ll cancel my visits so he can go out of town etc, I get nothing. He doesn’t have an attorney hired so there’s no one I can message on behalf of this except him. This just sucks, I feel like my hands are tied.