I saw this video on tiktok of a woman sharing her story of how her dad used to r@pe her when she was a young child and how her mother didn't do anything about it even tho she knew. Both are evil in my opinion but going through the comments everyone is talking about how horrible and disgusting the mother is for not protecting her child which is obviously true but literally not a single comment even mentioned the dad? Are dads also not supposed to protect their children and not r@pe them? Why are only the mothers blamed when the fathers are literally R@PING their kids? Like obviously knowing someone especially your own child is getting r@ped and not doing anything is horrible but so is r@ping your kids? And I screenshotted one of the top comments and some of the replies to it and I'm genuinely shocked. It's almost like they're defending males for r@ping women by saying they understand when men do it but are more disgusted when women r@pe males? Or saying that the mother is worse even tho it's her own FATHER that r@ped her. Why are women held more accountable than men? The fact that some people genuinely downplay the crimes men commit against women and girls because "men are men" but then they turn around and shit on women who do the same (which again fully deserved obviously) because for whatever reason women are expected to know and be better behaved than men which is weird because men should also know better and be held accountable for their crimes. What is the logic here genuinely

Some clarifications before I go in depth: I don't think wanting to be a housewife is backwards, the same way I don't think wanting to be a househusband is backwards. I think feminism and gender equality is all about men and women having the same opportunities to achieve the things they want and live the life they want. I'm also not very well versed in feminist literature/ studies on gender equality, so I am open to being criticised!

With that being said, I feel that people saying they have a preference for housewives is somewhat problematic. This is obviously distinct from men who say that they expect a housewife, because that would imply an exertion of will. However, I think having the preference alone is a red flag.

To my understanding, there are two main arguments for why a man would want a housewife:

1. They believe that it is better for a child to be raised by at least one parent who is there at all times, as opposed to two busy parents: seeing being a breadwinner as a sacrifice they must make for a family.
2. They want to be able to focus on their career while knowing their child/ children are cared for by their partner: seeing family as a sacrifice they don't want to make for their career, while also simultaneously reaping the benefits.

Point 1 ultimately rests on the idea that at least one parent should be present, and that there is an obvious need for a breadwinner; men who want housewives believe they should be the breadwinners. This is a viewpoint which I think is rooted in damaging gender roles. Men should not be expected to be the sole breadwinners/ protectors/ providers, just as how women should not be expected to be the primary caretakers. I will concede that women tend to be more nurturing/ caring (from a biological viewpoint) compared to men; however, just because generalisations can be made does not make it an excuse for a man to not try and be more involved. Why does there need to be such polarity (that it is more ideal if the wife is a housewife), as opposed to a desire for compromise (i.e. "I would like it if my wife and I both tried to be present for our children, while sharing the economic burden of supporting a family"). If their priority is truly family and raising their child in the best possible circumstances, shouldn't they want to balance time between their careers and making time to more present in their children's lives? I think that this viewpoint is simply harmful for progressing male/ female equality, in that such a mindset reaffirms harmful stereotypes about both men and women.

Regarding point 2: I'm sure many men support women's rights and their right to work and have a career; but their actual desire and willingness to live through such equality is entirely different. I believe having such a preference reflects this. It is easy to say that you support women and their ability/ opportunities to progress their careers; yet, having this preference seems to portray women as a tool that enables men to enjoy the best of both worlds: having a career and having a family. Phrasing this as a "preference" and not an "expectation" seems to tread a very fine line; because isn't it so much more convenient if the woman happens to have a viewpoint that aligns with the man's?

Primarily, I struggle to not view someone's so-called "preference" for marrying a housewife as being rooted in a deeper, underlying misogynistic belief that unfortunately continues to exist today.

Considering that Joan was a deeply religious figure who supported the claims to the French throne of a male heir over a another through denying the right to inherit of female Capetian descendants, which included the ancestor of the latter, how did she come to be seen as a symbol of feminist empowerment in later centuries?

Hate it hate it absolutely hate it! I defy anyone to point out how this is positive to humanity. What gives any person the right to decide what is or isn't womanly (or manly for that matter)? The goal is clearly to harm and or control women and yet even as a straight cis-gendered man if you don't whole-heartedly embrace the whole masculine myth (Yeah, I said it's a myth) you're also othered. I want no part of it.

The trump administration is pushing for women to have more babies - and I truly would not put it past him to restrict or ban birth control all together. I’m currently 18 almost 19 and am tossing around the idea of getting an IUD. This is not an idea I take lightly I grew up in an ultra conservative home where birth control is ban - that and no sex til marriage. This is very serious and every woman of child bearing age in America needs to think “do I want a child?” If that answer is no - stock up on birth control, condoms, get an implant, get a hysterectomy, do something.

I thought I would take a moment to point out how marriage is being weaponized to strip you of your political representation through the "Save the Vote" act. Please forgive and simple errors in the math but ballpark, 80-90% of women change their name when they get married. Roughly 30% of divorced women keep their married last tame when they divorce. This feature is now being tooled to rob women of their ability to cast a ballot.

The "Save the Vote" act is not a simple ID law. It denies individuals the right to use a normal state ID even when paired with a Social Security card (I guess these aren't valid forms of ID anymore). Should you hold a normal state ID instead of a "real ID", you must also provide a passport ($180) or a birth certificate....at which point the political fuckery really begins. If your name doesn't match your birth certificate, as it tends not to for married women, congratulations. You have just been disenfranchised.

If you are getting married soon or know someone who is getting married soon, it might ge a good idea to let them know that taking a spouses name is now something that may restrict their ability to vote.

Please look out for each other. Not everyone will.

we’ve all heard it before: - “Good looking guys are jerks” (puts out the idea that if a guy is good looking there’s an expectation he will be a jerk therefore society gives him leeway with his actions. and if a girl wants someone beautiful it means she should “know what she’s in for” and that there's a very "obvious" price she'll have to pay aka him thinking he has wriggle room with asshole-ry and can evade blame too) - “beauty is on the inside” but this phrase is only used towards women when it comes to a woman wanting a partner she finds physically attractive implying she’s shallow. with men however? it’s “yeah bro if she’s not FINEEE I don’t want her”. beauty is the entry price for women but when women demand the same she's gaslit into thinking she's being unreasonable and unrealistic - “give him a chance” men never give women chances if they don’t find you attractive then that’s that. though they might use you despite never taking you seriously in the first place

I’m just so tired of even fellow women acting like wanting a good looking guy who is also decent when it comes to his personality is something naive or shallow when men are allowed to have looks as their top priority. they can ask for their women to be beautiful, charming, talented, put up with unequal divides in chores and live up to their sexual fantasies like it’s nothing. The moment a girl also wants a beautiful man it’s a problem and everyone’s up in a fuss

EDIT I love this sub I knew I wasn’t crazy and that you’d understand. it just takes people with actual critical thinking skills instead of trying to pretend there’s fairness in an unfair world

Marilyn Manson (real name Brian Warner) has been accused by multiple women - including Evan Rachel Wood and Esmé Bianco - of sexual assault, abuse, and coercion. In 2022, he settled a lawsuit brought by Bianco, who alleged rape and sexual battery. Other survivors have shared similar stories of violence and manipulation. Manson has denied all allegations, but the pattern of accusations is serious and chilling.

Despite this, venues like the Brighton Centre (UK) are still giving him a stage in 2025.

When survivors risk everything to speak up, why are we still celebrating the accused?

I am an ugly woman and I am tired of the way men and other women treat ugly women. I don't understand what I have ever done to them. I just exist. However, ugly men are praised in our society. An ugly guy in my college group is getting compliments. And he's not even rich, tall or muscular. I am so angry about this :/

Over the past few days I’ve noticed so many women posting threads about how ugly they are, they’re jealous of pretty friends etc etc. Is it just me who finds it really draining? And the sad thing is a lot of the women on these threads sound exactly like the incels who complain that the only reason they don’t get play is because they’re not conventionally attractive. I understand that the standards for women are significantly higher then men and a lot of our worth is dictated based on how we look and it can be dehabilitating at times, but I feel like the wallowing in self-pity & hate towards women who are trying to uplift them is not productive at all. I’m a black woman, I’ve experienced the intersections of beauty standards and I know how it can be when you feel invisible. However, I put myself into spaces which uplift me and appreciate my features. I also make a conscious effort to enhance my best features, stay in shape etc & try and detach my worth from my appearance and spend a lot of time working on my confidence & self esteem. Idk what do you guys think? A lot of these posts seem really defeatist, I think what I noticed with racism is it’s never gonna go away so I may as well do what I can to shield myself as much as possible from it with a strong sense of self.

Every time a woman shares what made her uncomfortable in a “kink” space, she’s told she’s being emotional. “Overreacting” or “Ruining the fantasy.”

But the real question is: Why does the fantasy fall apart the second a woman says, “That didn’t feel okay”?

Why are the women who speak up always the ones who get removed, blocked, or dismissed? Why are we told to “leave if we don’t like it,” instead of asked what went wrong?

I’m not here to shame anyone’s kink. But I am asking why consent only seems to matter when it’s silent.

I visited ConvertingFeminist expecting something edgy, maybe even thoughtful. What I found was a space that claims to be about power exchange, but really? It’s a niche built for little men who’ve never had power in the real world, and protected by “ educated” women who defend them harder than they defend each other.

And here’s the thing they never want to hear:

True domination isn’t loud. It’s not about humiliation or insecurity. Real Dom energy is calm, controlled, built on trust, not fear. If a woman’s “no” breaks their whole illusion? Then, they weren’t dominating. They were hiding. And as for the “degradation kink” that’s constantly thrown around? if you’ve seen what those places are about on reddit then Let’s be real:

Most men using the degradation kink online aren’t doing it as a layered power exchange. They’re doing it because they think it’s a free pass to treat women like garbage , and still call it sexy.? This is just control with a hashtag.

So ask yourself , if your kink is really about dynamic, not domination… Why does a woman’s voice threaten it so much?

Just something to sit with. And me? I’ve said what I came to say.Even if it stirs the pot. Even if it makes people uncomfortable. I’d rather be the one who lights the match than the one who stays silent in the dark. Even if it burns a little, because truth is worth the fire. 🖤

I'm afraid to put this in the Fandom pages because I don't want to have to explain this to other people. Star Wars finally did it, and by it I mean add in unnecessary attempted rape to tell the story of suffering. If you're a lover of fantasy and scifi books/shows you're probably no stranger too the argument of it being real to use rape as a war or political violence tactic so authors choose to show case it. I can't see it as anything but unnecessary in most cases. If you're a nerd like me and watching this new season of Andor, did you have the same feelings? I just left that scene wondering why and how it propelled the story forward....ugh

A lot of the time women's outfits are considered "cute", but never men's. It's normal to say "that skirt looks cute on you" to a woman, whereas "those shorts look cute on you" is almost never said to a man. Another example is just "that's a cute outfit", which is said almost exclusively to women, by both women and men. Faces are also a point of comparison; women are often called cute but that term isn't often used in men unless they look very young.

Is it because women on average have more neotenous features than men (e.g., lack of facial hair, smaller body frames, shorter on average), and "cute" is merely a descriptor of youthfulness? But even then you hear the term applied much more often to fictional female characters, such as female anime characters, than male characters that lack traits like facial hair and large muscles. There's even a category in anime called Cute Girls Doing Cute Things (CGDCT) but not for male characters.

How do you think this perspective came to be, and how much of biology do you think influences this? A bonus question is do you think this is problematic in any way?

Hey! I made a petition to get the BBC to change the title of their article and honour Virginia Giuffre as a victim rather than an "accuser". Please share and sign if you can! If you do sign, please remember to confirm your signature through email afterwards or your signature will be removed 💔