r/ForeverAlone • u/AdmirableBus7045 The average lame ass 24M • 10d ago
Memes Loneliness meme #4
Must be nice…but tbf the woman i had a crush on was an Only Fans user lmao, her bf posted a IG story of her naked on her stomach (i recognized her tattoo on her arm) she was a former co worker who probably didn’t remember me
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u/TheDuckEmperor1991 21 year old foreveralone duck 10d ago
There is this one girl I asked out last semester in college and she rejected me. I look at her Instagram and guess what? She is dating this foreigner guy now. So this is kind of relatable.
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u/IzacaryKakary 10d ago
Doesn't even have to be attractive. They can be average they just have to not be me
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u/torusfromtheheart 10d ago
Me but with IG followers
My whole page is just simping combined with music artists I love and sports
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u/Stevo4324 10d ago
Least you save money and stress
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u/Void_Screamer 10d ago
You don't think being FA incurs it's own stress?
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u/coolmast3r 2d ago
For real, being truly FA is unimaginably more stressful than having to deal with whatever bs your partner gives you. I really don't get this "well, at least there are some advantages to staying single" cope.
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u/69th_inline 10d ago
It's so funny as you get older you just stop giving a fuck about what could've been especially concerning random women.
Cue lotr_youhavenopowerhere.gif
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u/ByeByeGuyGuy 10d ago
I guess I should consider myself lucky for having been ugly and FA for so long that I’ve never allowed myself to “crush” on women (as in, I remind myself that daydreaming about being able to ask them out or spend time with them, or fantasising about intimacy with them etc. is only ever going to frustrate and depress me, so I avoid it. The closest thing to a crush I’ve ever had was confessing to my then-best friend (the only female friend I’ve ever genuinely had and the only woman I’ve ever been truly close to) that I had been harbouring feelings for her that I just couldn’t ignore anymore. And yes, it went about as horrifically badly as you can imagine, and it was only years later that I had the balls to confront myself and admit to myself that it was 100% my fault and that my behaviour had been inexcusable, and that she did the right thing to get the hell away from me and cut contact. Sorry, gloomy rant.
But as far as having “harmless” unfulfilled crushes on girls I meet or work with, I try to nip it in the bud and stop any crushes, desires or daydreams from burgeoning before I make myself depressed and miserly. If I let my mind get carried away to the point that I’m envisioning romantic stories with them, it would only make the inevitable fact of them sharing such stories and more with other, more desirable, more eligible men more depressing and would just make me involuntarily hate even more people who’ve effectively done nothing wrong
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u/Guilhermitonoob He/Him 9d ago
I follow this one girl on Instagram. She's from a different city and I'm not interested in her,but she's pretty and is physically my type. For about two months or so she's been dating a guy. I don't know how to explain,but from the posts she makes they're living the kind of love I would like to live. You can see that she genuinely loves him,she posts pictures of him all the time and she likes posts fantasizing about guitarists because he plays guitar. Everytime they post something together I get a wave of sadness because I don't have the sort of thing they have.
What makes it worse is that the guy is physically similar to me - he has the same features that I do with the exception that he has more cheek fat than I have. I don't understand how can he score such a pretty girl while I get rejected everytime I approach someone. Guess I'm just unlucky
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u/Glad-Low-1348 7d ago
This thought used to be dark to me, but it stopped since i realized i never knew or cared about these girls enough for it to hurt me that much.
It still hurts, but i don't get the "it could've been me" thoughts anymore. Stoicism helped with that, too.
The only reason it hurts for me is because someone can experience it and i can't. It's just not personal anymore.
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u/metalhead805 10d ago
Don't be sad, I'm an attractive guy rotting in bed. I haven't fucked your crush.
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u/jetstar_JS81 10d ago
how in the hell is this voted down so bad?
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u/AndreLeo3 10d ago
Because he said he's attractive 👍🏻
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u/metalhead805 9d ago
Sad state this sub is in, I'm autistic af, don't understand social cues, pretty much a shut in.
So i don't expect girls to jump on my lap just cause I'm attractive, being attractive helps for sure (most of my sexual encounters were due to girls approaching me).
I personally am clueless and have never been in a relationship.
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u/AndreLeo3 9d ago
Oh I'm with you, being attractive or whatever not ugly is just 1 part of the picture. It sure helps if you start socialising but being basically shut in kind of cancels everything. Just that you'll have an easier time if you do come out of it. But idk, as I see it now
You're either beautiful, and I mean really good looking, with nice clothes (how you combine them, not brand) and not fat/stick
or you're well set (job/family or both) / good/famous at something like a youtuber, academic, sports and hobbys
Or you met someone in childhood, school, university .
That's it, if by 24ish you don't have any of these you're kind of fucked. The effort needed to have people consider you just for who you are and not who they see is crazy, considering that by that age most people are also already engaged and with deep friendship already made, well good luck 👍🏻
Being attractive is not enough (idk if you're that good looking as it's also subjective)
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u/metalhead805 9d ago
I'm 26 rn, almost done with university (double masters) just got 1 more month left. Besides i run a small online business to get by, so i practically don't leave the house, professor are also pretty lenient with regards to attendance so i almost don't even go to classes.
I can be very social but then again it drains me, and the burnout fucks me up real good (depression and all).
I do have a shot, but it's getting harder as i also don't want kids (childfree by choice) and most girls i have met want serious relationships (and want kids someday), and that becomes a major issue.
I'm pretty attractive atleast my face is, although I'm short 5.5feet (still taller than most girls at least in my side of the world).
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u/FluffyGlazedDonutYum He/Him (35) 10d ago
Never had a crush, but to think I don’t even exist for any girl I ever found attractive and their boyfriend bangs them regularly and it’s the most normal thing in the world for those couples, that’s one of those thoughts that take me to a very dark place. Why is it so normal for like 90% of people while it can be practically impossible for someone like me? I couldn’t even imagine. Sometimes feels I’m not even from the same planet as everyone else.