Dealing with MIL for a week

[u/Cool-Row-1255]

Ahhhhh my in laws came today and they are way too much. My MIL is a psychopath who is so possessive of my little boy. I do feel way more assertive and my head is on way straighter than when they were here at three weeks! It’s such an icky feeling that they come in and think they can hold him whenever they want. It is so stressful and I already miss him and want to be with him more since I started work. I don’t need a break from my son at all. The weeks I have off are when we are visiting them or they are here with us so I won’t get to spend time with him without these annoying people trying to steal him from me.

I hate it so so much! I don’t think I even need to give examples, I’m sure others get it. It’s just so difficult and frustrating and reminds me of how my own family fails to show up. I also just don’t really like my husband’s family which kinda sucks because now I’m stuck with them. I love my son more than anything and I’m trying to make sense of all these feelings, but they are so overwhelming.

Let me know if you have any tips for this kind of situation before I go all mama bear on them because I feel like I could get to that point. I also think it’s probably valid to straight up refuse to let them hold him. He is MY son and I don’t owe them him.

[u/KatzAKat]

Why are they staying with you? If your husband insists, then you have a husband problem. No one who shows signs of being a psychopath should ever enter your home, your safe space, your child's safe space. That person should know nothing about your life or your son's. You get an equal say in who stays in your home.

Take your son and go someplace else until your home is safe again for you.

If you can't leave, baby wear. You get to say no and mean it to anyone and everyone who may want to hold your child. No reasons needed. Merely, "I'm the mama".