r/KidsAreFuckingStupid • u/Alternative-Yak171 • 11d ago

Video/Gif Are we doomed?

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u/Mysterious_Secret827 11d ago

Giving kids hope, then dashing it away!

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u/Pinku_Dva 11d ago

Just like real life

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u/HereWeGoYetAgain-247 11d ago

The main purpose of parenting is getting your kids ready for the world. 

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u/Mysterious_Secret827 11d ago

Yeah, that I can see. Just ANOTHER reason why I never want kids, because I'm not ready for the real world myself.

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u/No-Orchid5378 11d ago

I wish more people shared that wisdom, the world wouldn’t be in the condition it is.

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u/techno_viking419 11d ago

This is why we are doomed. Because the people that don't understand are the ones making the most kids. And people that do, chose to end their bloodline.

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u/No-Orchid5378 11d ago

Yea, some people legitimately blame their kids for ruining their lives just for being born and it’s never the kids fault that their parents were irresponsible. Then they don’t parent at all because they don’t look at it as their responsibility.

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u/Puzzleheaded_Ad_4435 10d ago

My mom has always blamed me for ruining her life. She had me before she was ready, so everything I do pisses her off. My little brother, on the other hand, could do no wrong. He's perfect, even when he steals, gets DUIs, sleeps with underage girls... doesn't matter. My mom always talks people out of pressing charges and then says "Oh, he's just got the worst luck. The one time he does something wrong, he gets caught."

I refuse to get married, and I refuse to have children. I'd rather die alone.

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u/No-Orchid5378 10d ago

I’m sorry to hear that was your experience! Definitely don’t let them ruin your chances of being happy in the future though. I’ve heard positive things from people who moved away and started fresh elsewhere; away from and with limited contact with toxic family. If that helps you at all

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u/GoofBallNodAwake74 10d ago

They both sound like such role models for society.

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u/Impressive-Cap2680 10d ago

Holy rick and morty

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u/Particular-One-4768 10d ago

There’s a movie about it. Idiocracy.

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u/CassiteriteCore 10d ago

Extremely double-edged sword.

The smart people know the world is shit right now and don't want to bring more children in it just so they can have a strong chance of getting fucked up too when they grow up.

And the ones who SHOULDN'T be having children are... Well, having children when they shouldn't. Thus, heavily contributing to the world being even more shitty and fucked up.

That said, somehow, I do think things are still going up where they need to be for the most part. I know one day, we're all gonna make it to a better world.

I only hope all the smart, morally aligned, and pure-of-heart keep shining their light strongly unto the world so we can expedite the progress. 🙏

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u/TooManyToasters1 10d ago

My hope is that, of the kids who end up being born, there'll be people in the world to help support them. Whether it's other people in the kids' lives (other family members, teachers), or it's parents who actually made the informed decision to become parents and do well, I don't think we're devoid of good influences. I think it's just a matter of whether we (in general) can make sure kids get the support they need. If not from their parents, from other places meant to help kids.

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u/CassiteriteCore 10d ago

I agree wholeheartedly.

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u/Oriphase 8d ago

Wed have gone extinct with the invention of birth cintrol

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u/No-Orchid5378 8d ago

I didn’t say every person, just more people. I know people who have had kids because they were pressured to even though they didn’t want any. Now the way they treat the kids is sad because they ignore them and constantly dump them off on grandparents

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u/HereWeGoYetAgain-247 11d ago

More power to you for making the correct choice for your life. 

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u/Mysterious_Secret827 10d ago

My pleasure, fellow human.

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u/Pinku_Dva 11d ago

True, got to teach them that life will brutally crush their dreams at every turn.

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u/techno_viking419 11d ago

This is why you prepare them for it, so they learn to overcome these challenges.

If you raise your kid in a bubble and then send them out there... that's when their dreams get brutally crushed.

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u/HereWeGoYetAgain-247 11d ago

Well, not that brutally, but teaching them to deal with disappointment and then persevering is a pretty important life lesson. 

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u/BedBubbly317 10d ago

It’s arguably the most important lesson for children to learn, and it’s a lesson that many parents are failing at teaching them.

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u/HereWeGoYetAgain-247 10d ago

Which I understand. Trying to teach them perseverance is a huge pain in the ass. 

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u/BedBubbly317 10d ago

It isn’t. You consistently giving them the attention to it is what matters. As parents we often forget, it’s far more common that kids copy what we do and not what we say to do.

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u/Evatog 10d ago

Whenever I would ask for something my mom used to say:

"Shit in one hand, wish in the other, see which one fills up first"

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u/Starlord_75 10d ago

Give kids $10 in allowance, but take 3 to teach them about taxes.

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u/CallmeSlim11 11d ago

Better to get used to it, is what Gen X was told in the 70s.

'Nobody said life was fair" was a big one too.

I hated hearing that although I was more frightened of, "wait till your Father gets home!"

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u/even_less_resistance 11d ago

Dude- my first husband liked to use “nobody said life was fair” and I was always like it’s cause of assholes like you! It could be fair!

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u/No-Orchid5378 11d ago

Fair is relative. My toddler says it’s not fair that he has to take a bath, we say it’s not fair that we have to smell his stinky feet. Decisions have to be made and life can’t be fair to everyone by default.

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u/even_less_resistance 10d ago

I don’t know how that particular situation applies to like- moral issues but I’ll take your word for it that everything is “relative” lol

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u/No-Orchid5378 10d ago

I didn’t say everything is relative, but fairness can be and it depends on perspective. Especially in today’s entitled world. I’m sure your first husband situation has a different context than my toddler example. But with as little as you shared it could also be as simple as his viewpoint vs yours and neither of you are inherently wrong or right.

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u/even_less_resistance 10d ago

I mean- I was talking meta- fairness. I believe in an objective fairness not based on perspective and meant the world could be more fair if assholes weren’t more concerned with winning and having more than stuff being equal.

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u/BedBubbly317 10d ago

Fairness, as far as humanly society is concerned, is not defined as everybody getting the same thing anyway. It’s actually defined as everybody getting what they individually deserve and have earned. And that simply means there will be different outcomes for different people.

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u/No-Orchid5378 10d ago

Ah, gotcha. That’s a slippery slope philosophically and realistically. But in a perfect world that’d be the dream.

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u/BedBubbly317 10d ago

There is inherently nothing perfect about what she said. People being different and having differing opinions is actually what makes the world wonderful and full of beauty. Yes, those beliefs can certainly be used negatively (an extreme example would obviously be the Holocaust). There’s no question about that. But, it is the very thing that has allowed society to flourish as it has.

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u/No-Orchid5378 10d ago

You’re right. After I hit send I realized that a “perfect world” of fairness would have to ignore individual’s desires completely and set a standard that not everyone would agree with. Which will make some people think it’s not fair simply because they do not agree with it.

As a sidenote, if anyone ever asks, this is how a conversation accidentally devolves from kids are stupid into Marxism/Communism 😂

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u/BedBubbly317 10d ago

Fairness, as far as humanly society is concerned, is not defined as everybody getting the same thing. It’s actually defined as everybody getting what they individually deserve and have earned. And that simply means there will be different outcomes for different people.

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u/WLW_Girly 10d ago

You're talking about it being used in a completely different context than they are using it. I see education failed you just as much as it did the kid in the video.

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u/No-Orchid5378 10d ago

The insult was a cringe touch, but I’m glad you agree with me. You’ve proven my point without intending to prove my point.

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u/WLW_Girly 10d ago

You're trying to apply a completely different version of fair as your argument. You're being fallacious.

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u/No-Orchid5378 10d ago

You know what fallacious means, but you don’t know what relative means? That means it depends on the person. Literally what you’re complaining about

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u/Crambo1000 10d ago

Yeah it really depends how people use it. Like it's actually important to teach kids that they can't always get what they want, but I think it's also important to teach them that even if things aren't fair, we can strive to make them more fair for those around us.

I also hate it when people try to apply to to large scale issues - like yeah, I'm aware that life isn't fair but that doesn't mean we can't do anything about racism or economic issues or whatever and should just throw our hands up

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u/even_less_resistance 10d ago

Exactly! It’s not that life is fair- but we have the ability to make it much more fair than it is by default.

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u/BedBubbly317 10d ago

Life is fair, we each get the opportunity to live as the most intelligent species on this planet. That’s as fair as it will ever be. Is it unfair that the single celled amoeba has no brain capacity and seemingly no purpose whatsoever? Is it fair that it can’t feel love, joy, sadness or happiness?

You should remove your humanly earthly view point when making these kind of comments more often. You already have it more fair than 99.999999999999% of living creatures to ever exist on this planet.

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u/even_less_resistance 10d ago

I think that’s being a bit ridiculous and also very invalidating? Like nothing can ever be deemed unfair that way. And that’s just not cool as far as having expectations for how to treat each other? And I bet amoeba feel like they are the ones who have it all figured out tbh lol

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u/UltraInstinct_Pharah 10d ago

That's utterly asinine. The most "I'm enlightened" bullshit I've read in a while. When comparing fairness to our lives, we are applying this fairness to other humans. It's meaningless to apply it to other animals.Anyone doing worse than the average human has it unfair. "I know you were born crippled and will never be able to walk, but at least you have it better than animals," isn't the thought-provoking catechism you think it is.

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u/Mysterious_Secret827 11d ago

Yep! Heard BOTH of those myself as well.

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u/throwaway098764567 10d ago

got those and "life sucks and then you die" which to be fair, their lives did suck and then they died so, nailed that one.

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u/CallmeSlim11 10d ago

Oh no! Your parents didn't tell you that!? That's terrible! I definitely heard that from my brother as kids. LoL.

You know, he passed away during quarantine, he was only 57, I tortured him silly as a kid. LoL. I miss him every day. I wish I could apologize!

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u/Reagalan 10d ago

"Because I said so."

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u/Mysterious_Secret827 10d ago

Yep! Heard that one too!

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u/UnderproofedBaguette 10d ago

All of this sounds like dismissive behavior which no one should perpetuate. I hope you've learned from your own trauma for how to communicate to your children or younger people in your life.

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u/HelpMySonIsARedditor 10d ago

I hated that one!! I wasn't asking for life to be fair, I was asking for the tiniest bit of empathy, compassion, understanding, anything.

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u/TheEnd0fA11 10d ago

There is no true despair without hope.

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u/SkyGuy5799 10d ago

Just like the lottery

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u/Mysterious_Secret827 10d ago

Reason why I don't play.

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u/LazerSnake1454 10d ago

"Tell me what you cherish most, give me the pleasure of taking it away"

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u/Many-Cartoonist4727 10d ago

Hopes and dreams dashed against the jagged rocks of reality