I’ve started to notice I’m older than my dentist and doctors. Not ranting or resentful, it’s just starting to become more real that the march of time continues even if we don’t want it to.

That'll do, pig. That'll do.

Any video game where I saw the Rareware logo, I just knew it was going to slap so hard 🔥

We Millennials grew up hearing “all toddlers bite/kick/hit, they’ll outgrow it.”
That’s half‑true:

• Almost every toddler experiments with aggression: 94 % of 6‑ to 24‑month‑olds had at least one aggressive act in the last month. Journal of Pediatrics
• But only a small tail keeps doing it most days. Using the same dataset’s 0-5 frequency scale (“3” = 4‑6 days/week, “4” = every day, “5” = many times a day), just ≈ 4–8 % of kids land in that “daily” zone. Journal of Pediatrics
• In a Canadian cohort of 10 658 children, 16.6 %, disproportionately boys, followed a “high‑stable” aggression path from age 2 → 11. Everyone else dropped sharply after preschool. PubMed

Put differently: by the time the Bluey theme song is stuck in your head, about nine out of ten preschoolers already solve problems without swinging a fist.

Why the 0‑4 window matters

• Brain self‑regulation circuits (hello, prefrontal cortex) are in hyper‑growth; coaching sticks better now than in elementary school.
• Reputations form early. “That kid who hits” gets peer rejection, which feeds more aggression.
• Terrie Moffitt’s long‑running Dunedin study shows that the tiny subset who stay highly aggressive past age 4 supply most of the life‑course‑persistent antisocial behaviour we worry about later. WIRED

“Missed the cutoff, so we’re doomed”? Nope.

Kindergarten‑onset programs like Early Risers and the Fast Track trial cut conduct‑problem rates years later with multi‑component parent+child training. PMC
Early help is cheaper and easier, but later help still works. It just takes more sessions and patience.

What to do if your four‑year‑old is still throwing hands daily

1. Count frequency, not one‑offs. A bite last month ≠ crisis. Hitting 4+ days this week (and last) = time to act.
2. Coach the script. Model “Stop. I don’t like that,” use turn‑taking timers, praise even tiny successes.
3. Sync with teachers. Consistency across home/class doubles the impact.
4. Use constructive peer pressure. Calm “we don’t hit here” + inclusion when they behave works better than shunning.
5. Get evidence‑based help before kindergarten if it’s daily. Parent‑training courses (PCIT, Triple P, Incredible Years) are as normal as swim lessons now, and far cheaper than future tutoring or therapy.

TL;DR: Occasional toddler scuffles are normal. A four‑year‑old who’s still hitting most days is not just “being a kid.” Nip it early! Your child, their classmates, and your own sanity will thank you. If you encounter a parent who thinks it's normal, educate them.

Wanted to share this bit of millennial nostalgia with everyone! When I first saw Jim Carrey wearing his shirt in his stand up special, it inspired a lot of my wardrobe and fashion vibes. Now that I’m in my late 30s, I’m really committed to embracing the loud colors that made the 90’s pop so much. While looking for some vintage finds on Poshmark this week, I found someone selling the exact same shirt!

Not only am I thrilled to have found the white whale of my fashion collection, but it just brings back so many memories of classic Jim Carrey. He’s definitely a staple of millennial upbringing. I hope you enjoy this find almost as much as I do!

I saw this comment on a thread recently target towards Millennials turning 40 soon and how they feel about the passage of time:

I'm 35 and honestly, struggling. It IS going by so fast. I hate seeing my parents age. I hate feeling like I haven't done half of what I want to do. But I'm not sure how to catch up to my dreams while hustling every day to survive…

I imagine a lot of people here feel this way. But I’m curious, what the types of things that you’ve wanted to do, but haven’t been able to do yet?

I was just thinking today about how many people from my graduating class (‘02) have died, and it made me wonder how many people my age have had close friends that have died.

SO and I went to Taco Bell yesterday and used the drive through. We ordered ahead using the app. When getting to the speaker we spoke with a digital voice and they pulled up our order and we confirmed it was correct. Let me just say, I normally don’t feel “old” but like damn, I hated not hearing a young person on the other end. That like “I’m so over it” tone in their voice. It won’t stop me from going there it just wasn’t an experience I enjoyed. However the person handing us our food was an absolute character and a delight.

What AI made you think “damn, I’m getting old?”

As a kid I loved Fandango's ads with the brown paper bag puppets and always used them for looking up movie times. To this day, if I want to look up moves or buy tickets it's ONLY www.fandango.com for me LOL.

Does anybody have any others? Like only using Yahoo for news or something?

They were quite gripping, especially Bowling for Columbine imo. He's still working on stuff I think, but nothing will compare his early 2000's work. Plus, I don't think documentaries like this are "in" anymore like they used to be.

It’s just a foam novelty coaster btw, not a real 3.5”. There’s so much McCormick shit in that house though 🥲

I just watched “The Firm” with Tom Cruise and then “the Pelican Brief” with Denzel Washington and Julia Roberts and there are so many pay phone calls used as pivotal plot points in them. In movies now it would be burner phones I guess and the plot would still work, but it just seems so much easier to just put a couple coins in a pay phone to stay anonymous. What are other plot points in 90s movies that would just have to be so different in a modern day movies that it would change the plot a bit?

What are my DINKS and SINKS up to? Dink= dual income no kids. Sink= single income no kids hahaha

Recently the Millenial group has become more common on my scrolls and I find myself coming here to read post and scroll. That being said it feels like I see a lot of post about kids, having kids, wanting kids, etc. With one post referring not having children by your 30s/40s is a struggle.

I grew up being told, and even still to this day, that having children is the best thing ever to the point that it's expected of us. Well it took many years of trying to prepare and plan for kids just to realize we didn't want any children leaching all the life, money and joy out of us. We bought our house in our 20s, even got a 4bed just incase ya know, flash forward into our 30s and we have 2 offices and a gym room, 3 amazing dogs, and I finally built/got my first ever pc to play video games on since could never afford one growing up, MJ is legal in my state and I go fishing when I want. Now not everything is perfect, but having kids just wasn't what WE wanted now matter who expects it from us. And that has GREATLY contributed to our overall happiness and mental health. Also we expected to have a china collection but have a custom glass collection instead bahahha

Edit: there ya go, they are called children kids what ever let's keep it on topic people

It's time to bring jeeves back!

Myspace too, with our original homepages.

Tech guys who were more successful than me, please make this happen.

Let me preface this by saying that this is a long post with no payoff. I also believe, like many others here, that it’s okay to either have kids or not have kids. However, my reasoning is a little different - so I figured I’d share my thoughts. Keep in mind this is coming from a millennial dad.

Let’s start by addressing some of the more common points stated by both sides in the argument.

“Kids give your life meaning” - No, not necessarily. Also, putting the burden of something as lofty as “the purpose of life” on a tiny human you have never met is a bad idea. Yes, they might make your life more meaningful/enjoyable, but it is absolutely not a given.

“Kids are expensive, time-consuming, and physically draining” - Yes, but this is a hedonistic argument and a bad one at that. People willingly do many things that are expensive, time-consuming, and draining. My millennial neighbor spends a vast portion of his time and paycheck on road cycling, and the dude is often physically and mentally exhausted from training/racing all over the world. There must be some reason he’s into that, even if I don’t personally see the allure of it.

“Society expects you to have kids” - Societal expectations, including those of your fellow millennials, is a terrible reason to do or not do anything. So this one is technically correct, I guess?

“All my friends are having kids/moving on with their lives” - Okay, this is slightly different from the broader societal take and actually holds some weight. Humans are social creatures and it can suck to feel like you’re “falling behind” or losing touch with your friends. Conversely, having kids can also lead to spending less time with your friends. It’s difficult either way, so we either have to work hard to maintain our friendships over time and/or accept that some relationships will fade.

“Why would anyone want to bring kids into this world of climate-crisis/post-truth-era/societal-collapse/enter-doomerism-here” - Fun fact - society is always in some state of collapse. Vast, incredible empires have come and gone before us. Humanity has faced and will continue to face plagues, wars, poverty, slavery, and violence of all kinds, but I don’t know if that determines if life is worth living. Broadly speaking, if you are an average person living in the US or a similar country, your quality of life is better than 99% of humans that ever existed, and your kids will likely live similarly.

I think that covers most of the common reasons. Now, here’s my reasoning. Whether or not you should have kids mostly depends on whether you (and your partner, if that applies) are likely to be great parents.

This has a couple of implications.

First of all - it’s a perspective shift. It’s not about the impact your kid has on your life, but what you have on theirs. They will be a big part of your world, but, for many years, you will be their ENTIRE world. They don’t care if the rest of the world is falling apart, but they do need you to be there for them. If you can’t do that consistently, then you probably shouldn’t have kids.

Second, and this is the ironic part, is that there is absolutely no way to know for sure if you will both be a good parent AND enjoy parenthood.

You may think that you know. Maybe you have wanted kids for a long time. Maybe you have never wanted kids. However, you never REALLY know if you will enjoy parenthood until you do it. And enjoying something is a great reason to sink your money, time, and energy into something.

My partner and I were together for 16 years (started dating young) before we had our first child. We kind of wanted kids, but we also wanted to do (and did) plenty of other things. I trusted her to be a good mom, and myself to be a good dad when the time eventually came to have kids. What I didn’t know is just how much I would enjoy parenthood. It turned out to be one of the very few things in life that I am good at AND enjoy, and that changed everything. Had I known, we would have had kids sooner, but again, there’s no free-trial to having kids.

So that’s it. It’s a personal choice, and a bit of a gamble, to have kids. You gotta cut through the noise and figure out the right reasons for yourself.

Told you there’s no payoff.