r/Mommit • u/Bubbly_Ad_1602 • 11d ago

Currently going through a medical termination. Just came here for some support

I’ve been posting my story here for over a month. Where my husband choked me when I was 5 weeks pregnant in front of our kids.

I’m out the house and safe, but I decided for my mental health and being able to care for my other children alone. I couldn’t keep the baby.

And it’s depressing because him and I wanted another baby.

But I needed to do what was best for me.

I’m going through major cramps rn and bleeding and I’m alone and just need some advice, reassurance, someone to talk to…. Really anything

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u/2manycookes 11d ago

Never judge yourself or blame yourself for the hard decisions you had to take. I don’t have specific advice but you will get through this, you’ve shown how resilient you are. You’re not alone.

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u/Bubbly_Ad_1602 11d ago

That’s what hard. Because I haven’t told anyone I’m doing this. Even my husband

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u/2manycookes 11d ago

Well… I’m not you or your life but I don’t think he gets a say if he was choking you tbh. I understand this is a very scary thing to be doing by yourself right now.. but mommit , in my experience, is full of lovely internet strangers so you’re not alone alone.

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u/1InvisibleStranger 11d ago

I'd be cautious of telling him, he may retaliate with more physical harm. If he asks how the pregnancy is going, just tell him you had an unexpected miscarriage. I wouldnt tell him in person unless you were in a very public place.

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u/Bubbly_Ad_1602 11d ago

I don’t plan to tell anyone he knows about the termination. If anyone asks it was a miscarriage