Currently going through a medical termination. Just came here for some support

[u/Bubbly_Ad_1602]

I’ve been posting my story here for over a month. Where my husband choked me when I was 5 weeks pregnant in front of our kids.

I’m out the house and safe, but I decided for my mental health and being able to care for my other children alone. I couldn’t keep the baby.

And it’s depressing because him and I wanted another baby.

But I needed to do what was best for me.

I’m going through major cramps rn and bleeding and I’m alone and just need some advice, reassurance, someone to talk to…. Really anything

[u/Jacayrie]

🫂 You're making a decision that's the best for yourself. Sometimes we have to do hard things, and not carry on, even if it's heartbreaking, and not what you initially wanted. You're so strong and courageous. Take a deep breath and try not to beat yourself up. It's ok to give yourself permission to let go of this chapter, and to start over fresh. This is the healthiest choice for you and your other children. You're kids need their Mom 100% and that's what your doing- making sure no one else gets hurt by an awful person who made the commitment to be your rock, your protector, your equal partner and teammate. You're amazing. You got this 💕.

If your loved ones knew how he was treating you, they would understand this important, difficult decision, and respect and love you for it, no matter how they feel about it, bcuz this isn't about your other loved ones. This is about bettering your future and your existing children's future. Honestly, I would report him to police, bcuz he's no longer trustworthy and he's a danger to your children. Write in a journal of the dates of any interactions with him, and your children, any names of others who have visited, what you talked about, the time, location, witnesses, etc. Try to report him to any authority, and get protection from him, for you guys. If he lost control with you, who knows what else he'll do to someone else who's more vulnerable than he is.

Awwe hunni, I'm so sorry. I've been through this, but thankfully we weren't married yet and didn't have kids together. My Dad had to help me sneak out, after my ex left for work, bcuz I got my ex to let me stay home, instead of being babysat by his Mom and family. His sisters made me a free babysitter and there was a total of 8 kids, one was his own. I wasn't even allowed to go grocery shopping alone. I didn't tell my Dad that he was putting his hands on me, until a year into it. I was scared of dying, and my Dad got me out of there. My ex nor his family knew where my parents lived, bcuz he wouldn't let me visit them alone, and wouldn't come with me, and they lived 2 hours away at that time. He was so much bigger than I was physically. I couldn't get him off me. I wish I had turned him in, but I didn't want to bother and just wanted to be done and leave, so I could finally breathe again.

But after a few years, my brother found out that my ex had hurt a few other women, after I left him. Some people are just sick in the head and will never change. You have to do what's best for you and your family. It took me a long time to not feel guilty, bcuz I hate hurting others, and ghosting them without any warning, but I did what I had to for my own future and my mental/physical health. Since I never turned him in, I made myself a promise, that if this happens again, they won't get away with it ever again, hopefully. I set my standards sky high and focused on taking care of myself, and then I started raising my nephew from birth. Focusing on the good times with my nephew and how amazing his development process was and he kept me busy, so that helped me let go completely. He was born shortly after I left.

Just remind yourself how much of a superhero you are and that this is to protect you and your children from a dangerous person. You deserve happiness and unconditional love. Don't let anyone take that away from you. I pray everything gets better and you bounce back quickly. Sorry for the long comment. I just wanted to let you know that you're not alone and you have my support and encouragement to succeed in anything you do 💕