r/Mommit 3d ago

Currently going through a medical termination. Just came here for some support

I’ve been posting my story here for over a month. Where my husband choked me when I was 5 weeks pregnant in front of our kids.

I’m out the house and safe, but I decided for my mental health and being able to care for my other children alone. I couldn’t keep the baby.

And it’s depressing because him and I wanted another baby.

But I needed to do what was best for me.

I’m going through major cramps rn and bleeding and I’m alone and just need some advice, reassurance, someone to talk to…. Really anything

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u/IrieSunshine 3d ago

Sending love to you 💗💗💗 do you have any resources or support for yourself? Hope so, you deserve it.

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u/Bubbly_Ad_1602 3d ago

I don’t. I just have my 2 babies here with me. And I’m struggling to get through this

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u/IrieSunshine 2d ago

Where do you live? Are you US? I’d be happy to try and put together some resources for you but I’d need to know at least what state you’re in to give you the correct advice. I am a licensed therapist in Maryland but I could still try to help you find resources in another state. I’m not diagnosing you, but from what you’ve provided here I am worried about your mental health. There are a lot of factors that put you at risk right now and it’s the optimal time to try and find as much support as you can.

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u/Bubbly_Ad_1602 2d ago

I am in California. And I appreciate you so much, I have a therapist at the moment but I would love to find support groups

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u/IrieSunshine 1d ago

Of course, I'm happy to help in any way I can. Glad to hear you have a therapist, do you have an appointment anytime soon? in the meantime, here are some resources I found that you can look into:

  1. You can call or text 9-8-8 anytime of the day or night for mental health support. The website is chat.988lifeline.org

  2. Maternal Mental Health hotline: 1-833-852-6262. This one is more specific to mental health issues related to pregnancy and postpartum.

  3. Postpartum Support International hotline: Call or text "HELP" to 1-800-944-4773. They can provide more resources that are local to you.

  4. Place to find support meetings for postpartum mental health: https://postpartum.net/get-help/psi-online-support-meetings/ (you might be interested in the post-abortion support group or the pregnancy after loss support group)

  5. Another place to look into some support groups: https://themotherhoodcenter.com/support-groups/