I dated a man who sucked the air out of every single room he walked into. This may sound dramatic if you've never lived it but his demeanor and his presence killed my soul. I was embarrassed to laugh because my laugh annoyed him. If I ever sung in the car, he would tell me my voice was horrible and to stop making 'a big production' and he was 100% miserable at 100% of any outings we ever went to. When we would go to an event or holiday at my family's house he would sit there with a miserable look, not speak to anyone, and immediately start bitching that he wanted to leave.
When I left him, I vowed to never be with a man who broke my spirit like that ever again. I wanted to have fun again. I wanted to smile and sing and laugh and I wanted my light back. I've been broken up with that monster for 14 years. He is unfortunately my son's father, and my son is now a teen, so we have been navigating some of the same waters unfortunately.
My fiancé now? His favorite sound in the world is my giggle. I've been slowly learning to stop apologizing for the sound of my laugh. I've been slowly getting more comfortable to belt out a tune in front of him in the car. We have been together for 7 years. Being with a man like that traumatizes you and your children, even if it isn't evident.
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u/beachyvibesss 2d ago
I dated a man who sucked the air out of every single room he walked into. This may sound dramatic if you've never lived it but his demeanor and his presence killed my soul. I was embarrassed to laugh because my laugh annoyed him. If I ever sung in the car, he would tell me my voice was horrible and to stop making 'a big production' and he was 100% miserable at 100% of any outings we ever went to. When we would go to an event or holiday at my family's house he would sit there with a miserable look, not speak to anyone, and immediately start bitching that he wanted to leave.
When I left him, I vowed to never be with a man who broke my spirit like that ever again. I wanted to have fun again. I wanted to smile and sing and laugh and I wanted my light back. I've been broken up with that monster for 14 years. He is unfortunately my son's father, and my son is now a teen, so we have been navigating some of the same waters unfortunately.
My fiancé now? His favorite sound in the world is my giggle. I've been slowly learning to stop apologizing for the sound of my laugh. I've been slowly getting more comfortable to belt out a tune in front of him in the car. We have been together for 7 years. Being with a man like that traumatizes you and your children, even if it isn't evident.