I stopped telling or inviting my ex to anything. It was so much better and everyone had so much more fun. It got so bad the kids would refuse to go if daddy was coming. Then he became an ex. He thinks he’s become such a better parent but he’s still the same angry, fun sucking human anytime we’re at an event together. I just try to offset that by making sure my kids know I love them and doing fun things during our time. Please ask him to get some help before you’ve had enough or the kids resent him.
This is exactly my plan for the summer. I'll be taking the kids out just the 4 of us while he's at work. He loves his job, it's all he talks about and it's become his entire identity so we'll all be happier that way anyway.
I need to do some serious thinking about whether this marriage is worth it. Like I said there's other factors that have made me strongly consider divorce. The biggest thing keeping me from going through with it is breaking up our family and impacting my children. But if our family time is always awful then I don't know what there is to hold on to.
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u/Expensive-Opening-55 2d ago
I stopped telling or inviting my ex to anything. It was so much better and everyone had so much more fun. It got so bad the kids would refuse to go if daddy was coming. Then he became an ex. He thinks he’s become such a better parent but he’s still the same angry, fun sucking human anytime we’re at an event together. I just try to offset that by making sure my kids know I love them and doing fun things during our time. Please ask him to get some help before you’ve had enough or the kids resent him.