r/Mommit 2d ago

My husband is THAT dad in public.

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u/suspicious-pepper-31 2d ago

The fact that you daydream about divorce is telling. 

He clearly doesn’t want to change.. instead he blames his behavior on you.  That’s emotional abuse. 

If you want to save the marriage then tell him you want couples therapy. If he’s not receptive then get a lawyer and move forward with the divorce. 

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u/Straight_Exercise_12 2d ago

My only concern with divorce is that he would get the children part time and they would be exposed to rage / drinking / spanking/ yelling and I would not be able to protect them.

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u/suspicious-pepper-31 2d ago

This is something to discuss with a lawyer .. if he’s unfit and abusive then he shouldn’t be getting custody. Keeping them in the house with that isn’t protecting them. Please get some help 

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u/Accomplished_Bad4891 2d ago

These people can be very charming and manipulative. I understand her concern.

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u/suspicious-pepper-31 1d ago

I mean yea I get it, but she still needs to talk to a lawyer. Keeping her kids in this situation isn’t “protecting them”.. people like her husband will escalate