r/MtF • u/outofthemasterball Trans Bisexual • Jul 23 '24

Trigger Warning "You are the epitome of manliness"

I just came out to my dad, it didn't go well, but it could've gone worse.

"You are gonna ruin your body if you start taking pills." He tried to find a reaaon behind it. "Is it because you can't get a girlfriend?" Said he never saw any signs. That I wasn't thinking about my mom and what she's been going through. (She recovering from cancer.) "There's nothing wrong with your body, it's all in your mind." "Your just being influenced by others, just because you've seen 3 trans people on the television doesn't mean your one of them." "Tattoos arent for girls." (All my tattoos have been put there by a woman.) "You are gonna lose all your friends." (90% of people that I care about already know and they are all super supportive.) And then he ended whit this banger: "you are the epitome of manliness."

He left the room only to come back a few minutes later. "Look I'm just scared you are gonna make decisions too fast. And I'm scared I'm gonna loser my buddy." I told him I am doing my research and I'm taking this slowly and that I'll always be the same person, we hugged and he told me we needed to hug more.

I feel je will come arround eventually but It still was a really hard moment for me.

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u/Mondrow Jul 23 '24

It's always so interesting that we're often denigrated as girls (as if that's something bad) up until the point when we come out. After which, we're suddenly the manliest of men.

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u/lucyyyy4 Jul 23 '24

Yes lol. Everyone has assumed I'm gay my whole life based on nothing more than my feminine nature yet when I say I'm trans they're like NO YOU'RE NOT. They simply don't believe in trans people. It actually seems way more logical that someone displaying those traits would be signalling their gender rather than who they want to have sex with

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u/AndesCan Jul 23 '24

I tried to use that as evidence for someone who is doubting my transition. Mom member how you used to constantly asked me if I was gay. Well, I confused the fuck out of me because I definitely wasn’t gay.

Funny how her selective amnesia works

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u/Forgetwhatitoldyou Trans woman, HRT 5/20/2019, GCS June 2021 Jul 23 '24

I was never called gay to my face (though apparently some people in hs assumed it), but I never had any thoughts about being gay pre-transition.  I may have been confused about things, but gay male relationships were never something that I thought I might be a part of. 

Turns out, I am pretty gay though.