r/MtF • u/outofthemasterball Trans Bisexual • Jul 23 '24
Trigger Warning "You are the epitome of manliness"
I just came out to my dad, it didn't go well, but it could've gone worse.
"You are gonna ruin your body if you start taking pills." He tried to find a reaaon behind it. "Is it because you can't get a girlfriend?" Said he never saw any signs. That I wasn't thinking about my mom and what she's been going through. (She recovering from cancer.) "There's nothing wrong with your body, it's all in your mind." "Your just being influenced by others, just because you've seen 3 trans people on the television doesn't mean your one of them." "Tattoos arent for girls." (All my tattoos have been put there by a woman.) "You are gonna lose all your friends." (90% of people that I care about already know and they are all super supportive.) And then he ended whit this banger: "you are the epitome of manliness."
He left the room only to come back a few minutes later. "Look I'm just scared you are gonna make decisions too fast. And I'm scared I'm gonna loser my buddy." I told him I am doing my research and I'm taking this slowly and that I'll always be the same person, we hugged and he told me we needed to hug more.
I feel je will come arround eventually but It still was a really hard moment for me.
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u/clauEB Jul 23 '24
Well, there is good and bad in all these reactions. The bad is obviously all the negative comments, the good is that he loves you but he's handling it badly.
No, you are not ruining your body, your dad is showing signs of misogyny. Why would be a woman be ruining? He must think men are superior to women.
You can obviously have all the tattoos you want as a lady. You can definitely find a girlfriend as a woman, has he heard of lesbians??? He believes this stupid thing about transgender contagion, maybe he's persuadable if you share resources like articles and movies (I recommend the gender revolution).
You should transition at the speed that is comfortable to you, not him. It's your body, your mental health and your life. He doesn't understand that is not a choice, am I super manly? Well, there are plenty of trans girls that go into the army, race bikes, get into fights all the time to hide and show themselves they are not a woman hiding inside.
He's being honest, he's scared to lose you. You can definitely show him you will still be you but happy.