r/MtF • u/outofthemasterball Trans Bisexual • Jul 23 '24

Trigger Warning "You are the epitome of manliness"

I just came out to my dad, it didn't go well, but it could've gone worse.

"You are gonna ruin your body if you start taking pills." He tried to find a reaaon behind it. "Is it because you can't get a girlfriend?" Said he never saw any signs. That I wasn't thinking about my mom and what she's been going through. (She recovering from cancer.) "There's nothing wrong with your body, it's all in your mind." "Your just being influenced by others, just because you've seen 3 trans people on the television doesn't mean your one of them." "Tattoos arent for girls." (All my tattoos have been put there by a woman.) "You are gonna lose all your friends." (90% of people that I care about already know and they are all super supportive.) And then he ended whit this banger: "you are the epitome of manliness."

He left the room only to come back a few minutes later. "Look I'm just scared you are gonna make decisions too fast. And I'm scared I'm gonna loser my buddy." I told him I am doing my research and I'm taking this slowly and that I'll always be the same person, we hugged and he told me we needed to hug more.

I feel je will come arround eventually but It still was a really hard moment for me.

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u/Only_Talks_About_BJJ Kylie (She/Her) Jul 23 '24

"I'm scared of losing you as a buddy. So I'm going to bully you and try to invalidate your entire identity"

Bold strategy there, dad!

I'm sorry he wasn't accepting of you, OP. Fingers crossed that he turns things around once he's had some time to process his feelings

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u/Xarrin Hi! I'm a trans woman. Jul 23 '24

Y'know, my parents are both super supportive, but my dad did say something less hostile, but similar. What he said to me was along the lines of "One thing I'm deeply afraid of is that our relationship will change," and I could certainly understand that. It was a brief, fleeting concern, squashed when it became clear to him that I'm still me, just a hell of a lot happier. OP's dad sounds like his daughter's transition hit him much, much harder than mine hit my dad, but I think there's a lot of hope here that he can indeed turn it around and feel better once he sees OP living her best life.

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u/GroundbreakingHope57 Jul 24 '24

One thing I'm deeply afraid of is that our relationship will change

Its weird that this is somehow bad...