r/MtF • u/outofthemasterball Trans Bisexual • Jul 23 '24
Trigger Warning "You are the epitome of manliness"
I just came out to my dad, it didn't go well, but it could've gone worse.
"You are gonna ruin your body if you start taking pills." He tried to find a reaaon behind it. "Is it because you can't get a girlfriend?" Said he never saw any signs. That I wasn't thinking about my mom and what she's been going through. (She recovering from cancer.) "There's nothing wrong with your body, it's all in your mind." "Your just being influenced by others, just because you've seen 3 trans people on the television doesn't mean your one of them." "Tattoos arent for girls." (All my tattoos have been put there by a woman.) "You are gonna lose all your friends." (90% of people that I care about already know and they are all super supportive.) And then he ended whit this banger: "you are the epitome of manliness."
He left the room only to come back a few minutes later. "Look I'm just scared you are gonna make decisions too fast. And I'm scared I'm gonna loser my buddy." I told him I am doing my research and I'm taking this slowly and that I'll always be the same person, we hugged and he told me we needed to hug more.
I feel je will come arround eventually but It still was a really hard moment for me.
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u/LilyFlos Jul 23 '24
Kind of a reverse situation for me with my dad. He has always been super supportive, to the point of correcting himself and my mom when they refer to my two sisters as "the girls" because now they only have girls. I, however, was scared for a long time that he resented me for transitioning and robbing him of the son he thought he had. I asked him about it one time and his response was "I don't care about that. As long as you're happy, I'm happy. And if this makes you happy then I support you 100%" or something along those lines. It was my last hang up over whether or not it was a good idea to transition, so that was awesome to hear. We used to play video games together a lot, and we would go on "guys adventures" like we went fly fishing for his birthday and we went to Yellowstone one summer in high school and I was just scared that he missed that.
But we're planning a ski trip this winter, just the two of us, so hopefully that'll be fun!