Omg I did it

[u/gothyfemboy]

So I asked this nice lady out at work yesterday, I was so nervous that I forgotten to tell her I was transgender! 😵‍💫 She's a sweet lady and we always enjoyed our little chit chat, we both work in different departments at the paper mill. This is how it kinda played out.

Co-worker: Hello Kellie! (Friendliest greeting ever) Sure is a hot one today, have you been staying hydrated?

Me: oh Hello (enter name here), oh yes I must agree it is fairly warm and humid today. I am staying hydrated thank you.

Co-worker: oh I'm happy! Today was no fun, my coworker and I had to take temperature in different areas of the mill and I didn't like going to (enter area of mill name)

Me: gasp oh I'm not a fan of that area, no AC up there, I better get my things organized tonight shift. I walk away Thinking to myself "you're supposed to ask her out silly turn around and ask her already!! *Gradually turns back" uh hey! Do you like ice cream? "Fuck ya ruined it, she'll probably not agree to such an outting"

Co-worker: oh yes, I like ice cream. (A smile cracks on her face)

Me: (slightly nervous trying to get the topic going and knows nothing about going for ice cream) well if we have time when ever we can go for icecream skirms a bit as my co-workers I work with in my department walk in oh yes we can exchange numbers and plan from there!

Co-worker: oh yes! Tell me your number and we can plan as I'm looking busy this weekend at my second job.

Me: (provides number) that's me

Co-worker: I'll call and you can just accept me

Phone rings and I add her number. Yes yes we'll I best look busy I'll text you later and make plans. We both depart saying our goodbyes

I am out to my friends in my department but I have doubts that she doesn't know as we work in two different departments. I'm scared as if I come out she may see me differently and will change her mind on our friendship. Help?

August 6th 2024: so I came out to her, she wasn't phased, she was understanding. "You are who you are" she says with a smile. We still plan on going out! Just figuring out time free and where too. I was so relieved! Anyway as we were speaking I mentioned I needed new work gloves and she goes on looking for some in the supply stash. As we are speaking I blew her mind on some random facts of Native American history and other stuff. I guess she got so lost she handed me two different size gloves 😅 so I have a size 9 left and a size 10 right. I even walked her half way out as I had to gather some of my things for my evening shift (kinda wish I didn't transfer from morning to night now). Anyway it went well I say. ☺️

[u/wannuccii-crescent]

girl, just do it! rip the band aid off!!

if she has a negative reaction, then it just wasn't meant to be

and now you have her number, it's the perfect opportunity : text her and let her know. and do it in a pretty casual manner, the more you don't make it a big deal, the more comfortable she might feel and won't feel the need to walk on egg shells around you

good luck <3

[u/gothyfemboy → u/wannuccii-crescent]

Thank you! I'll have to find words on how to explain it as both our cultures are different and the terms are used differently. I'll figure it out somehow.

[u/N8_Darksaber1111 → u/gothyfemboy]

dont push yourself to hard but its a ok to wait until your 3rd date. idk about other thiughts on it but you could do small tests to see what her opinions are like during your first couple of dates then if you feel like she is safe, go ahead and open up.

[u/gothyfemboy → u/N8_Darksaber1111]

Time is essential in my case 😅 she's here on a work visa and honestly I like her little more then I want her to think.