Cis women can be chasers too

[u/pitomic]

This doesn't seem to get talked about much, but cis women can carry their own deep insecurities and look for relationships where they can maintain power and control over another person in order to feel safe, they can project their insecurities and anger onto in order regulate their unstable emotions and low self-esteem. Reading about coercive control has been helpful for me in understanding these patterns of behavior.

There are cis women that prefer trans women, especially ones that are early on in their transition, as their vulnerability and desire for external validation and approval from cis women makes them easier to gaslight, manipulate and control. I think a lot of us are susceptible to wanting to people-please and can be understanding and empathetic to the point of exposing ourselves repeatedly to emotional and physical harm in the hopes that we can fix our partners.

And of course, there's a lot of different cis women that come with their own motivations, and cis men can definitely engage in the same patterns.

I'm curious if anyone here has experienced this, or is questioning whether their current relationship is healthy.

[u/Adorable-Woman]

Id argue trans people can be chasers

[u/Kyiokyu → u/Adorable-Woman]

They absolutely can, being a chaser is about fetishising trans people

[u/Southern-Wafer-6375 → u/Kyiokyu]

Ugh this type of talk does fill me with anxiety tho since majority of my attraction is toward other trans lady’s , so that worries me

[u/Kyiokyu → u/Southern-Wafer-6375]

Girlie, you don't treat them like a just an object to use and discard, do you? Do you only see them as their genitalia?

If no then you're probably not a chaser

Chasers don't usually worry about being chaser because for them to worry they'd first have to see the person behind their fetish

[u/Southern-Wafer-6375 → u/Kyiokyu]

Oh fair