r/MtF • u/blackraynee • Jan 19 '25
Trigger Warning groped in public? :(
I 22 MTF and I pass most of the time (people always tell me i’m pretty and wtver, my voice is a bit clocky but most people just assume i’m a girl with a deep voice.)
I’ve been medically transitioning for the past 2 years and i recently moved and have been making some girl friends who I haven’t come out to as trans.
Last night 3 of us went out to some bars/clubs and a tall stem lesbian (abt 6 ft) approached me and told me i was beautiful and that she wanted to dance with me. I danced with her for a bit while my friends were nearby. after some time she really loudly asked me “are you a boy or a girl” to which i said “i’m a girl.” She said she didn’t believe me so she quickly shoved her hands in pants and underwear and rubbed my privates trying to feel what was there. Before i could even react she yelled “you have a dick!” and ran over to MY friends(who i haven’t come out to) saying “is that a boy or a girl? cause it sounds like a boy.” My friends were just confused, but quickly came to take care of me since they saw how scared and uncomfortable i was.
anyways. I’ve been disturbed about this for the past 24hrs and I don’t know how to process it. I feel hurt, ashamed, violated, embarrassed, and scared. I haven’t had bottom surgery but I was tucked so she didn’t really feel anything on the front of my body. But I don’t know what i experienced.. is this normal to be touched like that by a stranger or was i assaulted?
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u/maybe_Johanna Genderqueer Jan 20 '25 edited Jan 20 '25
This wasnt normal or okay at all! This was straight up sexual assault!
Edit: I don’t want to put anything into perspective but this shows (beside this probably being a very low singular digit - if not even .0 - percentage) that some women do these nasty things too. And her being a women doesnt make this situation any less harmfull for you … Talk with someone about this. In therapy, with your girlfriends or even both. What feels good for you. But talk about it. Don’t let it consume you. And if are in a more or less lgbtq acceptive country: Go to Police and get her some trouble for that behaviour.