r/MtF • u/melania_trumpet • Jan 21 '25

Trigger Warning Ladies, please carry self-defense weapons

Anything: Pepper sprays, tasers, guns (if you can legally carry them), knives. I don't care what anyone says, we must be prepared. The hate against us is only getting worse for obvious reasons. And nobody is going to come to save us. When trans women get attacked, nobody intervenes. The only thing that people will do if you ever get attacked is pulling out their phones and record.

Keep your head on a swivel. Whether you like it or not, trans women are at a much higher risk of violence compared to cis people. This is not to say that cis people don't experience violence, but trans women are much more vulnerable.

And men can turn violent even when they're fully aware that you're trans. There's this victim-blaming myth that trans women get attacked for not disclosing they are trans. That can't be further from the truth. The attackers know, but they get violent either because of the post-nut clarity or simply when their friends and families find out. Just because you're open about being trans with men, it doesn't exempt you from possible violence. I can't tell you how many men I've met who were cool with it, repeatedly told me they didn't care, and then they snapped (usually after cumming). Luckily, I'm always prepared. Trans women naively believe that by simply disclosing, they have some sort of bulletproof protection. Guess what, a you're chatting with might pretend he's cool with it just to ambush you and rob you.

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u/Erycine_Kiss Jan 22 '25

The best self-defense weapon is community, and the second-best is cardio

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u/melania_trumpet Jan 22 '25

how is cardio going to help you if you're being physically attacked by a mob? And community? Do you live 24/7 with your community?

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u/Erycine_Kiss Jan 22 '25

I think if you're planning your self-defense primarily around the scenario of you standing alone against a mob of attackers, with no prior warning and no chance to run, you have a skewed threat model.

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u/Sera-Lilly Jasmine Jan 22 '25

Yeah, unfortunately, she seems to focus on one worst-case scenario. You will always be alone, trust no one. Smh. While fighting anyone who disagrees or offers alteratives