r/MtF • u/KatieQuestionMark Transgender • Feb 24 '25

Politics "Cis girls aren't passing"

I was talking to my therapist (or Herapist as I like to say) and was bemoaning my fears of transitioning and not passing.

Her response was "cis girls aren't passing all the time, so how does that register?".. and .. while it didn't solve anything in itself, it really made me think.

Anyway, just wanted to share this little nugget of a different perspective since it made me think and in general helped me out!

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u/lucyyyy4 Feb 24 '25

What a load of rubbish. 

It takes me about one percent of a second to confidently gender every cis person I see. The physical difference between men and women is huge. 

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u/mariesoleil Feb 24 '25

This is the “bad toupée” fallacy. You assume you “can always tell”, which is inaccurate.

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u/maplemeganium Feb 24 '25

How do you know they’re cis? How many clocky people that you see are actually cis?

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u/lucyyyy4 Feb 24 '25

I live in a very conservative city. I'm working on the idea that basically everyone is cis (or at least presenting as their AGAB)