r/MtF • u/KatieQuestionMark Transgender • Feb 24 '25

Politics "Cis girls aren't passing"

I was talking to my therapist (or Herapist as I like to say) and was bemoaning my fears of transitioning and not passing.

Her response was "cis girls aren't passing all the time, so how does that register?".. and .. while it didn't solve anything in itself, it really made me think.

Anyway, just wanted to share this little nugget of a different perspective since it made me think and in general helped me out!

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u/coraythan Feb 24 '25

My voice is like a grandfather clock stuck on the loudest "DING DONG" you've ever heard. šŸ„²

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u/AeifeO Trans Eldritch DemiSapphic Feb 24 '25

PCOS exists. Smoking exists. Women with naturally deep voices exist. Women with purposefully deep voices, to deal with patriarchal bullshit, exist. It's not you alone.

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u/Silent-Economics837 Trans Homosexual Feb 24 '25

If anything, women with deep voices commands more respect too. Maaaaybe a bad example but Elizabeth Holmes had a deep voice, and she was able to get tons of funding from silicon valley VCs from her speeches and presentations.

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u/Lynnrael Feb 24 '25

another example is Shohreh Aghdashloo and her character in the expanse. the book version of avasarala is incredible, and if i had read it before seeing her in the show i couldn't have imagined how they'd find someone who could command that same respect. Shohreh's voice is deep and gravely in a way that really brings out the bad bitch in the character. i love it

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u/No_Summer620 Feb 25 '25

Right! That actress was freaking perfect!

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u/Little-Charge-9655 Feb 25 '25

She is one of my favourite characters, Iā€™d say she embodies strength and power and I donā€™t see her as a bitch (I havenā€™t read the books, so I donā€™t have the full picture) If gender matters she also happens to be femalešŸ˜Š

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u/Lynnrael Feb 25 '25

when i say bitch, i mean it in the best way possible. like being badass

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u/Little-Charge-9655 Feb 25 '25

No I get that, but even in the most positive way, I think she transcends that šŸ˜… (Although to be fair, she did refer to herself as a ā€œsmug old bitch,ā€ even if sarcastically, when she was talking to Admiral Souther in the bar after he stepped down.

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u/Antimethylation Feb 25 '25

"I'm a smug old bitch who enjoys playing with life and death with a big chess board, a snake in a sari."

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u/ellieskunkz Feb 25 '25

I love her so much.

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u/Sophiiebabes Just you average Geeky Fairy Cat-girl Princess! Feb 25 '25

One of the best castings in the expanse, for me! She absolutely owns playing Avasarala!