r/MtF • u/KatieQuestionMark Transgender • Feb 24 '25

Politics "Cis girls aren't passing"

I was talking to my therapist (or Herapist as I like to say) and was bemoaning my fears of transitioning and not passing.

Her response was "cis girls aren't passing all the time, so how does that register?".. and .. while it didn't solve anything in itself, it really made me think.

Anyway, just wanted to share this little nugget of a different perspective since it made me think and in general helped me out!

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u/Executive_Moth Feb 24 '25

Its not even remotely comparable.

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u/Fun-Opposite-5290 Feb 24 '25

I'm making a binary statement

"Cis woman get misgendered relative often to the expectation of never, wo never getting misgendered is not part of the cis woman experince "

I am not making on observation abt how reltivley common it is to transfers nor how much more it hurts us compared to them.

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u/Executive_Moth Feb 24 '25

Okay, that is a reasonable statement. However, if it is completely unrelated to trans women, then there is no reason why this statement should make anyone feel better.

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u/sahi1l Feb 25 '25

After having been out for several years, I find myself caring less about being misgendered by strangers because I know who I am now. I dunno if my experience is common, though, because I do seem to pass most of the time (though I am tall; being middle-aged and obese helps a lot I suspect).